Goals. Linear or Divergent?
Goals. Linear or Divergent?
Setting goals should stretch us. What process do you use - linear or divergent?
Click through to Jill's video.
Setting goals should stretch us. What process do you use - linear or divergent?
Click through to Jill's video.
Communicating isn't that easy. So, how can you increase your listening prowess?
Watch the video below for some simple tips.
I have been thinking about Next. The Next that will be facing you, me, all of us.
The ‘Next’ that will emerge from pain and struggle of COVID19.
I have been thinking:
Perhaps it is like New Year’s Resolution?
Actually, that is flippant and meaningless for some of us who went through the “fire storm” of NYE 2020. I don’t want to get too heavy, but I certainly don’t want to be light and frivolous.
Let me step through some of the tips that are helping me with my thoughts of understanding my power and ‘Next’.
My passion for my work was born out of September 11 and I have had time to look back at my progress and my achievements during ‘iso’. I have had time to look forward and see “what else” but mostly I have held in my hands and had a good look at my why, my purpose, my passion and it remains the same.
Does your why shine during your day-to-day? Can you see your why connecting with those you will restart sharing your day-to-day with? And what about the different spaces some of may find ourselves in; can you make sure you can see and feel your purpose?
I have been dusting off my core values these last couple of weeks because affectus has been facilitating a number of values workshops.
It is wonderful to see people exploring the concept of core personal values. And then to consider and plan about how to have conversations with others that may share the same values or may have different values.
I believe starting with values when we begin to reconnect is important personally, professionally and (dare I say it) globally.
If you are unsure of your core values please get in touch and we can take you and your workteam can help you with Values. There is so much power to be drawn on through knowing your values.
How have you responded during this time of crisis, challenge, bumpy ride?
I have re-identified that I like to think about things not for a long time. I’m not totally a contemplative person, but if a significant concept is being considered I like to think and then to respond and write and find a process.
I now have great insight and personal knowledge about me that I will take forward to assist me and others.
How do you respond?
What is your way of connecting with a complex concept?
Can you sense the personal power you have at your disposal by just knowing this?
This is a tricky one but…
If you want Next to be brighter for you (and those that you share your day-to-day with) then being honest, open and generous with your needs is a good move.
I have found this a time of deeply understanding my needs around my why and at the same time being more empathetic and aware of the people that I care about. My needs are challengingly intertwined with everyone else’s needs. I don’t want all of those needs to become a complete mess so by getting my needs clear I will assist us all.
Have you established your needs and are you ready to work with others needs Next?
I love the concepts of personal and positional power. It is interesting to understand that unless you have given yourself time to explore the concept of personal power then it is often a very blurry concept.
I can feel my personal power wax and wane. However, by knowing my power I am able to give myself a bit of a talking to when I feel it dissipating and I can mentally call on it and most times it returns to me. But I have become aware, during this time of pandemic, that my personal power overwhelm others.
I think that understanding the power that you have and the power you can call upon is so important as we move to Next.
Next may look somewhat familiar or not at all familiar or anywhere in between. But knowing the power that you can draw on will be very useful when you step into Next.
Golly now that is glib and I know that’s easier said than done. I know, however, if there was ever a time where you can bring self-knowledge and deeper understanding to conversations about you and Next this will is the time.
It will be easy to chat, easy to be light. It is important that we have the courageous conversations. To think through the why, what, who how and when.
We should all be aware to the importance of having the conversations. Ppeople holding leadership positions should be aware of the conversations to be had and should be making space and opportunities.
Next is not going to be simple or linear.
Next may be wobbly, foggy and unsure. But I am looking for better.
Next can be better. Because, if we each use our self-awareness and access our personal power we can have the important conversations from a position and ‘Next’ will be better.
Head to Lockdown leadership it will help you with Next also. Click through to Lockdown Leaders for practical and useful materials, workshops and information.
When I think of courage I think of having a strong sense of purpose. But what underpins that courageous purpose?
Well what we know is the basic building block for all of that forward motion is values – personal values.
Values that may not be apparent but nevertheless are part of our decision-making processes.
My values comes from many areas of my lived experience, my parents, my sisters, people I have admired, responses to knowledge gained and experiences had.
What are your core values? Where have they come from? How do your values connect and mesh with those you share your life with?
There are seven essential steps that we have identified to assist you surface your values.
What are values?
Values are the principles that help you to decide what is right and wrong. These principles, in turn, guide your actions, behaviours and thinking in various situations.
The most useful starting point when surfacing and sorting your values is to find the words that match the principle.
Words like these:
Affectus has a simple one-hour Values to Guide Your Through workshop scheduled for 28 April 2020.
It will help you identify your core values and develop a process to allow these values to guide you through. Additionally, you will be provided with a simple structure for conversations about values.
If you choose not to join the online workshop I encourage you to surface your values, develop some conversational processes to share, and discuss your core values with those who share your (COVID19) life.
It will assist you to get through this challenging time – and beyond.
Finally, and repeating something mentioned above, what I know is the basic building block for all of that forward motion is values – personal values.
By identifying your values you will have a strong foundation to move courageously forward.
Written by Heidi Mumme, Affectus Facilitator and Researcher
Have you thought about going easy on yourself?
What are your expectations of yourself ?
These are completely abnormal times, unprecedented circumstances, terms we are all becoming more familiar with since COVID-19 first reared its ugly head. These are times we are all navigating through on a day by day basis. It can be stressful and scary; it is uncertain and there is no handbook to help us.
What is your new normal?
The reality is that there will be people who no longer have jobs, people who are now juggling work under a new set of conditions, and there will be some for which life hasn’t changed too much. Whatever your new norm is, there will be continuous readjusting to what that means for you. The reality of what your new norm looks like has/or is possibly still kicking in - this new normal will become normal, at least for now.
Goals and standards drive us as individuals whether in work or your personal life, but COVID has shifted many goals posts for almost all of us.
What happens when the goal posts are shifted?
For most of the population working from home is not the norm, let alone trying to work at home with your partner and/or children all trying to function in the same space, throw home schooling into the mix and each day can be a definite challenge – give yourself some slack.
Yes, we are going to make mistakes – big ones and small, and that is OK. Making mistakes is part of life and they are important to learn from. If something didn’t work today, try it differently tomorrow and see what happens – Have you given yourself some slack yet?
Our "Give Yourself Some Slack" Tips.
Ask yourself these questions each day
Recognise when you need some time out for yourself because you will!!
More than ever we need to take care of ourselves, look out for each other and be considerate to each other.
Be generous and be kind to yourself and those around you.
Written by Katie Scutt, NSILP Graduate
In global crises like we are experiencing now, we are all likely to be experiencing higher levels of stress than we normally do.
This is on top of the stressors we already have. But what is stress, really? And how does it affect our ability to be the strong leaders that we need now more than ever?
“…stress arises when individuals perceive that they cannot adequately cope with the demands being made on them or with threats to their wellbeing.”
To explain this further, for us to feel stressed, we first need to perceive that what is happening is a threat (e.g. there is a t-rex in front of us) and then we need to perceive that we don’t have the resources to cope with that threat (e.g. it can run faster than us).
What is important to note here is how we perceive situations and our ability to deal with them is key to whether we feel stressed and overwhelmed or calm and clear headed.
It’s also part of the solution.
So how does stress affect our ability to lead and make good decisions?
For better or worse, stress influences our leadership behaviour.
It can turn us into great leaders in or we can unknowingly become part of the problem.
This in turn, has a significant impact on the stress levels of those who we are trying to lead.
Consciously cultivating positive leadership behaviours in times of stress, such as maintaining a strong vision, communicating a positive outlook and forming strong connections with our team members will focus our leadership skills and also reduce stress for ourselves and others.
Leadership takes a lot of brain power, even in the best of times.
To make good decisions we need to address problems and make decisions all the while thinking about the big picture and keeping a watch out for threats to our progress.
When we are under stress, our ability to do this is reduced. This is ok and normal.
Remember, we are stressed when we feel like we don’t have the resources to cope with the demands placed on us. So, if we can find ways to increase the amount of resources we have, we can free up brain space and clear thinking.
Some ways to increase your resources include:
Stressful situations are going to affect us in different ways, including our ability to lead and make good decisions.
The good news is that if we take conscious, simple measures we can be the positive leaders needed to not only survive, but thrive in a crisis.
We just need to keep sight of our vision, bring our teams along with us and free up resources where we can so we can focus on achieving that vision.
Finally, if you or someone you know may be interested in delving deeper and exploring more tools and resources to deal with stress, click here for a free evidence-based e-course.
~ The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment ~
For each of us, the world has temporarily changed as we know it.
What this means and how this looks will be different for each person and family.
Particularly at this time of uncertainty, we are regularly confronted with difficult situations that need us to have confronting, difficult conversations. Conversations that require courage.
A courageous conversation requires you to speak up and express how you feel about the issues that are weighing you down.
Being able to articulate your thoughts and opinions is not always easy and they can be misinterpreted leading to more awkward situations.
At Affectus we regularly ask people to “get comfortable with being uncomfortable”.
What does being uncomfortable look like for you?
For me the “unknown” manifests all sorts of levels of uncomfortable, but more importantly having conversations about what the unknown means and looks like is daunting.
How do you start these tricky conversations?
How do you find your voice?
The decision that a courageous conversation is needed is the first step…..well done!!!
It’s time to be brave and start having those courageous conversations; start being open, transparent and honest…you will become more resilient and it will have a wonderful effect.
~ What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything? ~
Vincent Van Gogh
The ability to do something that frightens you. I like that definition of courage.
I like it because it is your ability, your fear. It is you that is assessing your ability, it is you that has turned to face something. It takes others out of the picture. It is you and yours.
At Affectus, we spend a lot of time asking people to look in the mirror and be bold. Often about personal traits and behaviours; levels of understanding and openness to change.
In fact, as I write this, I know that eighteen courageous individuals are on their way to meet us as part of the National Seafood Industry Leadership Program that we facilitate.
And, again, we will be asking them
At no point will we be asking them to measure themselves against one another. They may do this but we are not interested in that.
What we craft is an environment where people see situations that may be scary. They have a good look at it. And they take a step toward it.
We have been specialists in the area of leadership for well over two decades. That means that some of what we see and hear will be familiar to our team because others have trodden similar paths toward their fear. But it will be different and inspiring…I am positive about that. In fact, we often talk about awakening tigers! And that takes courage.
For one person it could be willing to start a difficult conversation…or any conversation.
For another it could be to address a room full of strangers…or another person.
Or, it could be a young person speaking their mind surrounded by faces with decades of experience.
Perhaps it’s a quieter person chairing a meeting.
Or, an experienced participant sitting and unearthing a deeper, hidden, unexpected wisdom and sharing it with others.
A couple of years ago I was asked to do some work in an unfamiliar setting. I hesitated, I felt my heart lift a few revs and I bit down and stayed quiet.
I found my Third Space, dusted off my courage and agreed. Now as it turned out the dates didn’t match my calendar (mores the pity) but at that moment I realised a couple of things:
How do you know when you need to be courageous? When was the last time?
I wonder, as I write this out, what percentage of my day/week/year is spent being courageous? And then I wonder about the person sitting next to me on the bench at the gate? Sitting next to me on my previous flight?
And then I pause and consider courage at a more intense level. Fleeing; facing aggression; looking at rage and it takes on a completely different hue.
When will you be courageous? Tomorrow? This week?
How will our amazing eighteen inspire us again as they demonstrate courage and then build deeper self-knowledge?
Don’t let your courage get dusty like mine did.
Have a wonderful courageous day.
Do you wonder about juggling you? Do you think “when will I have enough time”? Does your to-do-list feel a little/a lot/just plain crazy?
During periods of time in your life juggling time so you can find care for yourself can be elusive.
Some of you may be married and that becomes part of the juggle. Others of you have a terrific leisure life and that becomes part of the juggle. And for others it is the community expectations and kids wants & needs.
Yep many of us can tick off all of those and think..golly there it is in a nutshell…juggling and me…well actually it is just juggling.
Our last blog talked about knowing yourself, your distractions, your type and team. This blog is just for you and it comes as a story.
Now I am not a great story writer. I am a little more skilled with the talking part. But nevertheless I want to tell you a story. It is a story of juggling and self-care. I hope you will find it useful rather than just another dose of “suck eggs”.
I took myself away last weekend. I went to a place with people I love and who help me be open and vulnerable.
The opening up element I find ok. On the other hand, the vulnerable part I can find challenging. But when I connected with the people that I shared this weekend with I was able to step into vulnerability.
This probably has something to do with safety.
So, over the weekend this is what I found out.
By taking the time away from the day-to-day I discovered more about myself.
I unearthed a more practical side of my nature and I found out some more about my responses to others.
Some of those are trivial and some immensely valuable.
For instance, I can knit squares for refugee bedspreads while I am talking about loss and grief. And in doing this for the first time I didn’t cry.
I found out that when the conversation got a bit heavy and intense I feel the vulnerability rise and so I project and assume others are feeling the same and I lighten the mood.
So a personal learning is to take something to do with my hands when deep conversations might happen. And next time don’t lighten the mood; leave that to another and go into that place that I sometimes avoid.
When was the last time you paused long enough to get to those places of self-knowing? And why is that important?
I can’t help you with the answers to those two questions. But I do know how valuable it was for the 18 other people I was with. It was really valuable.
Something else I found was the importance of distraction. You might think I am contradicting myself. But I don’t think I am.
Last blog we talked about juggling in a more practical functional way. So when I am talking about distraction that means suspension/pause/off-button.
Last weekend, like similar weekends I have attended, helped me suspend my life for 56 hours.
Yes there are others who attended this retreat who wanted action at the end. But for me the distraction, the suspension allowed me to be with others. And hear their words, understand their drive and direction.
Through the suspension of my day-to-day I was able to be more present. I was able to access more appropriate responses.
And the true loveliness was that none of others stuff had to become part of my juggling. At the same time it did add understanding to the items I am juggling.
Being in distraction (perhaps suspension is a better word) to ensure you can be more present allows you bring your whole self to a conversation.
When did you last allow distraction to happen in a way that assisted you to see the things you are juggling more clearly? What can you do to give yourself space to hear and respond in a way that assists you with your own juggling?
The importance of these three learnings for self-care provides more clarity which in turn may assist in forward momentum.
Getting away is vital. Into a beautiful environment helps too.
Go there. It is part of the understanding of self-care and creating a safe space allows this to happen.
Distractions can bring new knowledge in and will assist with juggling more effectively.
Take time. Always take time to pause. Fit the pause in. Put the balls down. Just put them down. You may be frightened that you will then want to pack them away for good, but take the self-care pause. I am so glad I did.
If you would like come and pause with me next time, drop me a line and I’ll be in touch, firstname.lastname@example.org.
“If you're not good at juggling, then you're not juggling. I always tell people that. if you're dropping a lot of balls, then maybe you shouldn't juggle. And that's fine... there's different ways of working.” ~ Amanda Seales
This quote from Amanda summarises the ideas about juggling that I shared last time about Juggling and Focus .
This week we're delving into the practicals about juggling. There are four key aspects:
Do you like to have many things on the go?
Understanding this about yourself will assist you in juggling time and commitments.
How do you identify whether you do like a few things happening at once? Try pausing and understanding your personal response when there are many projects/jobs/commitments needing your attention.
By finding out about yourself you can understand how your response is different.
For example, I am energised by having a number of actions/jobs on the go but I also want no distractions and am more single-minded when I am working with a “people issue”.
A logical next step is to think about what distracts you?
Perhaps it is a time of day or a type of task.
Do you get distracted very easily when doing certain activities? Or there other activities where you can concentrate really well and maintain focus through all sorts of noise?
Is the latter because you place high value on that task or activity? Such high value that you don’t hear people talk. Is the former because you haven’t placed high value on that activity.
Knowing your distractions and how you value them can help you work out (juggle) when to work on what.
I want to let you in on a secret, I get distracted very easily when I am doing certain activities. And it is always hose activities I don’t place a high value on.
At Affectus, we have this amazing personality assessment tool called The Big Five. One of the most robust conversations we have with clients who use this tool centres around conscientiousness.
How is your level of conscientiousness related to juggling and time?
Well I think that highly conscientious people are often more wired for getting things finished. They tend to know the task and where it finishes.
Whereas for someone with low conscientiousness gets distracted and finds something more valuable to bounce onto before finishing what they have started.
Yes, yes I know I know I am generalising here but the point is…knowing your type it is hugely liberating.
Another not-so-secret-secret. I am not very conscientious. It’s funny because even my teachers use to say that about me! But knowing I’m not conscientious makes me more conscious of juggling my time and commitments effectively.
This seems an inconsequential concept but it can been liberating to really know who is in your various teams. And how can the team be effective time managers?
You may have many teams in your life. And if you know the team’s strengths you can then see their juggling habits.
What do they do well? How can you tap into that strength to assist you with your juggling.
Going back to the image of the bicycle-riding, tightrope-suspended, ball-juggling aerialist in Juggling and Focus,she is part of a team. A whole team that makes up Cirque Du Soleil.
Understand your juggling in relation to others surrounding you and draw on their abilities.
Knowing yourself is a good starting point.
To assist you with knowing yourself it is valuable to get a bit of a snapshot.
This will assist you in establishing your time wasters. And, from that point of knowing, you will have some insight into you, your distractions, your type and your team.
A final secret.Just to let you know this is not how I juggle.
“I'm always trying to show versatility. I'm juggling, and I'm flipping fire, and I'm chewing gum and rhyming at the same time... on a unicycle, while playing the drums.” ~ MF Doom
Have you seen Cirque Du Soleil?
I watched the performance with a couple of young people. We were entertained. We were amazed. And one of us cried halfway home because he wanted to stay there with all the circus people. Quite the impression!
I found one of the acts was particularly impressive. A women on a bicycle with an umbrella juggling. Juggling lots. So many objects.
It was incredible to watch. Such skill. Such concentration. Whenever I think of juggling that suspended artist on her bike with her umbrella comes straight to mind. How did she do it?
Well the definitions read like this
“continuously toss into the air and catch (a number of objects) so as to keep at least one in the air while handling the others.” and/or “cope with by adroitly balancing (several activities).”
Well it depends on what you are trying to juggle doesn’t it?
So back to my mental image. Do you have lots of balls going at once? Are you:
As I watched my suspended juggler maintain a cloud of ping pong balls I did watch her face. And particularly her eyes. They appeared to be glancing through the swirl using her peripheral vision to track flashes.
I have tried to juggle and a modicum of success was achieved through not looking at the individual object. But to predict and then manage my movements in anticipation.
Perhaps someone who juggles may have a succinct description of what the brain and body does. My point is that in the act of juggling perhaps we are not focusing. Well, not focusing on the objects.
And when we manage the complexities of our lives, what do you juggle?
My life can be very complex, as can all of ours. And I have to be candid here. I am OK but not great with juggling. And I have discovered that the way I juggle doesn’t connect to my espoused values.
I have found that it is people in my life that are dropped when the everything I’m juggling becomes too:
So what can we do about this?
I am going to keep talking about juggling over the next couple of weeks. Feel free to share if you know someone who is thinking through the concept of juggling.
And, if you have someone in your gang who knows how to actually juggle ask them give you a demonstration and watch them.
Looking for leadership. Is it too soon? Can I dive in? Have I mulled through my thoughts enough?
Emotions (deep, raw, grief-filled), mine, family, friends, and my network aired over the last 17 days.
Should I wait until after the next wave of heat and wind that could leave more devastation?
I think it is time to dive in. It is time to look in the mirror and have a good think. If not now when?
One of my graduates put a comment on social media last night that suggesting that it is time that Affectus (my company) develops and delivers a leadership program for all politicians entering parliament. Wouldn’t we love to. I wonder who might attend?
Now to the questions that have been racing around in my head for months, if not years;
The hero leader is an oft-used term, but in this opinion piece it in no way refers to any of the amazing people who have been at the frontlines of Australia’s current bushfire crisis.
Dan Forbes talks about hero leaders here.
I have such strong evidence about shared leadership and how it works that sometimes I find it challenging to keep listening when others are speaking.
Then I remember the first part of great leadership is to listen. And so I stop and listen and sometimes I don’t speak at all. As painful and confronting as it is – I listen.
Imagine if what we observed in our leaders was listening.
The problem is that the hero models say that we have all the answers, so listening is limited because answers are at the ready.
With so much anger, pain and distress swirling through much of our nation I wonder whether it is time to think through the question “What leadership are we looking for?”
What are you looking for?
I read and listened as commentators and social media erupted with the words “We need strong/clear leadership”.
But what leadership did you want? This day, this week, this month, this decade?
I think the challenge may be that we need something different at different times and situations.
Which leads me to my initial thoughts.
When Victoria caught fire and I realised a number of my family were trapped in Mallacoota, I probably needed something different to you.
This is the challenge of leadership.
This is the challenge faced if we hold onto the concept that leadership is about one hero, one leader, rescuing us.
They can’t be everywhere.
So, how can leadership work if we need different things, for different people, in different places (physically and psychologically)?
I believe that is the gift of leadership. Leadership is not about one person. It never has been. It is about the collective.
And yet, we have set up a system that seeks only one person, placing us in a difficult position.
Please don’t get me wrong or read this as some soft concept. I actually think reconfiguring our understanding of leadership is really hard.
What traditions do we have to rethink?
We have to review our need for a hero leader. Someone who will be all things to all people.
This person will, incidentally, often be the same person we will attack and blame.
This “all things to all people” person doesn’t exist. They don’t. Think about sports leaders, world leaders, leaders of businesses and companies.
If we continue to believe in this hero leader model (and through that thinking continue to place a single person on the top of the pile), then we have to accept their:
Because they are us.
Really, they are us. And we all know that feeling when we are put into a space that we are completely seen – warts and all.
If we want to avoid going around in Einstein’s circle of insanity (and I know that there is some speculation about the validity of this concept) of thinking then we need to be brave enough to say leadership is not about a hero leader. Leadership is about me and I need to step into my space and be the leader I need.
I have also read lots of commentary about what we didn’t get during this time of national need. So, I am going to really stick my neck out here and have a go at what might have been useful.
When I think about those questions and more, I get a clear picture of leadership.
It's many people stepping into a leadership space.
I believe this, not the hero leader, is the truth about leadership.
As I ponder my questions further I sit here in my office, knowing that tomorrow and the next day, and the many days after, will be dangerous days in my part of the world.
I know that many people have sacrificed so, so much.
I understand that sections of my part of the world will possibly never recover.
But I do ache for leadership. A new leadership where we all understand (including those at the top of the hierarchy) that someone should not feel compelled to be our hero. Instead it is about us stepping into that leadership space that we all see.
What leadership do you want?
More importantly, how can we build a leadership style in our community that saves us from a hero leader who can never do it all?
This is my last blog for 2019. Now that is something to celebrate.
I have spent time this week considering what to celebrate and how to do it.
Affectus has had another amazing year. We have
We are completing 2019 with a great sense of positive anticipation.
How do you celebrate?
What have been the celebration moments during 2019 that have stuck with you?
How will you take those celebration processes and activities into the new decade?
As I look back over the 12 months these are the meaningful ways that I have witnessed celebrations where we have been the centre of or on the edge of.
Mostly for me celebration is a remembering process and a looking forward process.
What will you remember as 2019 finishes?
How will you be packaging those moments of celebration and carrying them with you into 2020?
What process will you use to think through the moments?
Sometimes we need a bit of a process to help us capture the celebratory moments and carry them forward.
Do you need a process?
Once upon a time I hit on a formula what worked for most people. And it was a meaningful and semi-public way of people sharing their times of celebration.
It was just two simple questions that we each answered well before the clock clicked over into the new year. These questions might be useful and they are pretty simple.
My answer will be:
I anticipate my answer will be
“the people I have seen courageously take leadership action and change the world”.
Let’s celebrate! What a year!
In a recent blog I cautioned about the blending of celebration and motivation. And the importance of ensuring the separation of the two concepts.
However, it is also important to see that having a motivated team may result in celebration.
So why the delicacy around blending the two concepts?
I suppose it comes in the form of manipulation. None of us like to be manipulated.
It is therefore valuable to separate celebration from motivation. Perhaps you do. Or perhaps you haven’t even thought about it.
Have you ever seen the blending of motivation with celebration that resulted in manipulation?
I have. The push back is extreme. The sense of team and individual resistance increases and trust is lowered. And it is hard to repair.
So beware the blend of Celebration and Motivation!
And now to motivation.
I recently ran my eye across a few articles written about motivation and celebration. And I was interested to read the tips regarding motivation.
Fundamentally, my experience with hundreds of teams indicates that increasing motivation commences with the leadership team focusing on individuals.
I have found that thinking through the following concepts can be useful:
When you consider motivation the above concepts can assist in targeting your motivation process.
Recently, I assisted a team deliver on an outcome for a Government Minister. It was fascinating to watch the motivation of the group unfold.
We teased out the concept of roles and responsibilities. It was important to establish that first. (So note that the above list isn’t sequential. It is responsive.) By having roles and responsibilities articulated the team could apply energy with focus.
The group needed to work as a team and sub-teams. This team concept was clearly communicated to the group so the endeavours were driven by a team ethos.
What was missing was time to understand how individuals in the team preferred to be rewarded.
When in a leadership role I believe it is vital to understand reward preferences. So, finally a tip.
If you are thinking about celebrating the end of another amazing year and hoping to motivate your team through celebrating with gifting, think about the individual. Yep that can be a bit of work!
Consider whether individuals are intrinsically or extrinsically orientated. And reward them in a manner that matches preference.
Know your staff. Are they intrinsic or extrinsic?
Celebrating - during 2019 Affectus has been part of some great celebrations.
And, as we head into a time of celebration for our country I want to firstly say have a lovely time with the people you care about.
I’d but also like to share with you our thinking about celebration and why it is good to do it. And what we think are the important elements of celebration.
I also want to acknowledge that times of celebration can be very challenging for some people. It can bring up sad, complex and traumatic memories. So be gentle also in your celebrating.
And, of course, there is our “old chestnut” - what about leadership and celebration?
Let's start at the beginning.
By definition celebration means …
A special enjoyable event that people organise because something pleasant has happened
Affectus has done some reading and research about this. And we are interested in diverse thinking. However, it would appear that we celebrate because we want to connect with others; to share our joy or our sorrow about something that is important to us.
So, we celebrate:
We now more clearly understand that celebration is not about numbers. It is about sharing with others something that is important.
What do you celebrate? How do you celebrate?
Having thought through the concept of celebration, we have listed a few that Affectus celebrated in 2019.
We have had a great year of celebration.
And we also got to hang off a few others celebrations.
Thank you for letting Affectus vicariously celebrate all your successes, joys and recognise some sorrows.
A final thought is about the blending of celebration with motivating people.
We would encourage you all to consider celebration as a separate concept to motivation. Over the next month or so we will write about motivation and celebration.
Tip 1 – Do it!
Tip 2 – Make sure celebration is distinct from motivation.
Tip 3 – Consider who is celebrating and what will be appreciated
Tip 4 – Think through the public nature of the celebration
Tip 5 – Share the joy and the sorrow
Tip 6 – It can be small and simple or massive and complex
Tip 7 – Take a leadership role into the celebration space.
I have been part of some great celebrations.
What celebrations have you:
What are the elements that make celebrations:
During the celebrations we witness people fist pump, hug, yell, clink glasses, laugh, cry, speak too much, not speak at all.
We regularly attend highly managed celebrations. And we also have enjoyed more casual less orchestrated gatherings. And, frequently, I have been leading teams that have organised celebrations.
Let me go to the beginning.
What is celebration and why do we celebrate?
By definition celebration means this…
A special enjoyable event that people organise because something pleasant has happened
Therefore, celebration involves some level of thought and planning.
What is the importance of celebration for you? Why do you celebrate?
I celebrate birthdays, awards, deaths, achieved goals…what about you?
Do you blend celebration with motivating people?
I would encourage you all to consider celebration as a separate concept to motivation.
Start with a why question:
I will write about motivation separately but let's consider celebration (briefly) now.
I was with a woman many years ago who shared with me that she thought I wasn’t asking the right questions.
I thought “How bizarre is that?”.
Self-aware leaders continually ask themselves questions and they ask others questions. They are curious, they seek out information and welcome the answers. So, how can someone ask the wrong question?
This confounded me and I came to the conclusion that I wasn’t asking the right questions for her and her needs.
But where do our questions come from?
Where do your questions come from? From what part of your thinking?
Do you ask questions for solutions?
Do you ask questions to explore concepts?
Do you seek clarification through your questions or perhaps you ask for confirmation?
When do you give yourself enough time to consider answers to your questions?
When Affectus works with you we are exploring concepts so that you will ask yourself questions. Questions that help you understand yourself at a deeper level and the environment around you.
We are hoping you will discover newness – about you and your direction.
We are not interested in directing you. We are assisting you develop great self-direction.
Sometimes this drives people mad. That we are not often answering machines. But, we believe we have the process right - getting you to find your own answers.
What are your questions about leadership and your direction?
At Affectus, we focus our thinking beyond the individual and consider leadership. Why? Because we know that using leadership as the framework ensures that any person is able to step in where they see it is needed.
We call this stepping into your leadership space.
Chinwe Esimai (Forbes Women) talks about great leaders. She says that knowing yourself is essential. “Self-awareness is empowering because it arms you with knowledge and enables you to make better choices — to change or grow.”
Have you asked yourself enough questions to get a clear sense of self and leadership and direction? How often do you pause?
We use Big Five to commence the self-knowledge journey.
Have you thought through the five areas assessed.
What questions arise from Big Five.
Are you wondering about the value of understanding the five key areas?
It is so valuable to understand this about yourself. It is also empowering to know how your personality and the using of your strengths will impact on those around you.
It is powerful to use these five areas of your personality with insight and self-knowledge. Using your strengths and understanding your weaknesses to ensure that the team around you has great impact (affect 😊)
Here are two key leadership questions around personalities worth considering…
And finally, the critical questions about leadership.
What are your values and how do you identify them?
Self-assess what is important to you. Wander around some values cards and think through those patterns of your life. Seek your values.
And what about your passions? We can’t always be working/earning money in our personal area of passion. But as a minimum we need to know what lights us up and what drives us.
Leadership is all about asking questions – your questions. Start asking questions and seeking answers. Listen carefully and weave this new knowledge into your increasing self-awareness.
Sometimes the questions you ask may irritate but they will also illuminate.
It is all about our questions – the ones we mull through quietly on our own minds and the ones we seek answers to in the public realm.
I spent a week in Canberra recently with our latest group of seafood leaders.
I have reflected on that week of passion and pressure questions were a common theme. But even looking at the photo I have questions.
These are the questions that run through my head all the time.
And if I pause just now there will be questions. Very quite questions in the background, that my mind is sorting with me barely conscious of that activity.
There will be more pressing task-type questions and more strategic why questions that sometimes the task questions push away from my brain power.
Where do those strategic questions go that get ignored go I wonder? Bloody hell – there’s another question!
Have you ever wondered about questions and the impact they have?
Have you ever paused and thought about how you are constructing your questions to get the answers you are seeking?
Now that might seem like what? But it is important to spend your brainpower brownie points on thinking about how to construct questions.
So back to our champion graduates last week in Canberra.
We spend 6 months working with these wonderful people. Honing their skills, stretching their capacity, supporting their activities, providing them with leadership opportunities.
On the second day of the six months we shared with them some of the theory of questions – the how . And we encouraged them to ask the question for the answers they were seeking.
Now that might seem a little manipulative on first reading and it may sound like ask the question you already know the answer. But that is not the case.
Interpreting some knowledge shared by MaryJo Asmus it would appear that if we ask open thought provoking questions this happens.
So, ask an open-ended, insightful question. Why? Because the brain lights up and expands and will find new pathways and meaning to discover the solution.
Ask questions that open people to new thinking. And construct your questions in ways that will give everyone that brain activity. What a gift!
Back to the leadership graduates.
Although they had spent time asking questions it was not until the second last day that they really fired. Asking questions of industry leaderships that evoked the above responses.
How did that happen?
Well, firstly because we kept at them about getting their questions honed. And it also happened because, as a group, they got organised and mapped the questions they would ask.
It was magic.
Create brain magic with your questions. Ask the questions that you want answers to that make all our brains expand.
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That is how we feel when we are celebrating achievements and success of our graduates.
August has seen many award evenings take place all over the country. Let's celebrate and recap these outstanding achievements. Beginning in the top end...
The Northern Territory Seafood Industry Awards was a memorable evening for Chris Calogeras. Chris received a nomination for a place in the National Hall of Fame. What a tremendous honor for Chris and his commitment, dedication & hard work in the Seafood Industry acknowledged.
Chris also graciously accepted on behalf of Affectus an award for Highly Commended in the People Development Award. Thank you Chris. We couldn’t be more proud of your achievements and to have you represent Affectus on our behalf.
We then move to the west of the country to now celebrate and congratulate Justine Arnold. What a delight and honour to watch Justine on her journey towards making her mark in the seafood industry. Justine took home the WA Young achiever of the year award. Justine's commitment and infectious passion for the seafood industry will be sure to lead her to many more successes in her career. Congratulations on your achievements Justine!
Now taking a dash across the Tasman to the NZ seafood conference where young Melbournian Josh Pearce also obtained the Young Achievers Award. Josh's commitment to the seafood industry in Australia and New Zealand is evident with his meticulous eye for detail in all aspects of his business and leadership practice. Josh also won the Victorian Young Achievers Award in the Seafood Industry Victoria Awards. With a focus on a sustainable, ethical and traceable business philosophy, Josh has earned himself a reputable place in the future of the Australian and New Zealand seafood industry. Well done Josh!
Also at the Seafood Industry Victoria Awards, Gary Leonard, a graduate of our Catch the Drift Program won the Industry Ambassador Award. Gary Leonard is a generational fisherman in the Gippsland Lakes. He has done his utmost to ensure that the seafood consumers of Victoria, have access to the freshest, healthiest, most sustainable and ethically caught seafood possible. Congratulations Gary on having such a positive impact on your industry.
Josh Cook one of our NSILP graduates from 2018 won the Young Acheivers award at the Sydney Seafood Excellence Awards. Josh and the team at Coffs Habour took home so many awards they needed a removalist van. Josh is passionate about understanding the industry on a national scale and from other angles (eg fishing, conservation & legislation) and being at the forefront of positive changes that can be adapted by all. We'd say he's certainly achieving that. Congratulations Josh.
And at the Australian Prawn Farmers Association night of nights in Brisbane, the 2019 Award for INFLUENCER (and women in aquaculture) who have made an outstanding contribution to the Australian prawn farming industry was awarded to our very own Affectus' Managing Director, Jill Briggs.
Congratulations Jill, we are all very proud of your achievements and your commitment to people, teams and leadership!
And to top off the month of awards, Affectus was the recipient of the People Development Award in Tasmania, Victoria, a finalist in NSW and highly commended in the Northern Territory.
Above all, a big congratulations to all the award winners. Enjoy and be proud of celebrating your achievements!
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Does life come in patterns for you?
Sometimes Affectus has waves of related activities. This is sometimes due to the calendars of others, such as the award season we have just been through and sometimes it feels random.
Sometimes it is weeks of planning such as our two weeks of intense planning for Ready.
Or it's weeks of facilitation with our face-to-face and virtual programs and workshops.
Does your year and months have waves of related activities?
This week Affectus pattern has been a week of conversations.
These are just a few of the conversations themes we have had. Invariably, these conversations have resulted in us finding a way of assisting and building with others in our network.
I love weeks like this. And I will be sharing what happened in a few of our conversations and with some tips woven in about conversation.
We are thrilled to have found a our place for Affectus to give.
In our search for places to give, we have strategically given money to start-ups, NGO’s and connected causes.
We have also been searching for a small organisation that is focused on similar concepts and with similar values to Affectus. And we have found them. Affectus is sponsoring the Murray Felines Football Club.
Talking to the young women in this organisation was powerful.
The conversation focused on “We want to have fun but we want to support each other fully in our endeavours”.
For Affectus that conversation was mostly listening and observing. However, it was also about asking some specific questions. Hearing leadership permeate their ideas was exciting and uplifting. Go Murray Felines!
What has been the highlight conversation this week for you?
The highlight of my week was a quiet, supportive conversation with one of our Alumni.
It started with a quiet, grabbed 2 minutes in a public space “it would be good to talk Jill.” And then it was loud and messy and a few others were wanting some of my attention.
I wanted to ascertain the urgency from our graduate as there seemed to be a high level.
"Now would be good". We tried but the environment was never going to let it really happen.
At the end of the short initial conversation I checked – did we get anywhere? "Yeah nah". Now that is hard to gauge but I settled on the “nah”.
So the learning here is about the environment.
Tip 1 and 2
1. Create the environment that is needed for the conversation. AND 2. Find the time so that the conversation can happen.
My sense was the conversation wasn’t finished so I suggested we find another time to finish it off. We organised a time and environment that suit us both.
Keep the conversation going. If what has to be said hasn’t been said then keep the conversation going.
In a more convivial space we had a 45 minute discussion that resulted in action and future support.
No…I won’t leave it at that the conversation elements were lots of talking from our graduate. And lots of listening from me.
Are you listening?
Clear your head of clutter so you can really listen.
Summing up what I had heard to make sure I was capturing the key points.
What are we talking about?
Focus. Somewhere during the conversation you need to establish two foci.
At this point it was clear that the initial part of the conversation was about letting some concerns and frustrations out.
And the next part of the conversation was about the graduate building their own path forward with some guidance from me. And we had found what the conversation was all about.
Is this just a chat or are we going to have an outcome?
It is really important somewhere in the conversation to understand the overall purpose and for it to be articulated.
At the conclusion of the conversation it was clear there would be more conversations. And that we both need to go and do a bit of work for the graduate. But it was a constructive conversation. Some may call it coaching…I call it a constructive conversation with a friend.
NB – These tips don’t have to be in that sequence and there will be others. Getting the six ticked off will be valuable for you.
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Have you wondered about the key areas you need to consider when your team is growing?
When you think about your leadership and your people and times of change have you thought about where your focus should be?
I recently presented a speech in Brisbane about growing teams and here are my tips.Firstly, you need to be conscious that during times of growth the team is disturbed. This disturbance can be large and highly unsettling or gentle moving forward.
Where is your team focused? You will need to have duel-focus.
Focus One - Find the people in your team who tend to focus on the future and new ideas – access their thinking during time of change and give their ideas airtime.
Focus Two - Assist the people in your team who think about details and getting tasks done. Ensure that during these times of change that they have tasks and roles that they can focus on.
By having these two foci during times of change your team is less likely to be tripped up by new developments because some in your team have their focus on the future and some of your team are focused on getting the existing tasks completed.
How do you map thinking in your team?
There are many analysis tools to be found to help you with this.
At Affectus we use the Big Five, which provides people with an understanding about their personality and areas of strength.
This tool surfaces a number of traits. And two of these traits are openness and conscientiousness.
Finding the people with strong openness assists teams with future focus. And finding people with a drive for conscientiousness helps the team with getting the job done.
Find these people in your team during times of change and ask them to focus their energies in their areas of strength.
Have you thought about the team’s needs?
It is important to think about the business during times of growing. But it is also essential to consider the people in the business.
We all find it hard to consider new ideas when we are feeling uncertain about our job security. Leadership is required in this complex space.
Providing an environment of security during times of growth (which may feel like disruption) will allow for people to remain their most productive selves.
Are you interested in further developing your leadership space?
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Our graduates receive a regular newsletter. Within each newsletter there is an article on leadership that we discuss and share our knowledge.
In our last newsletter we talked about teams and leadership.
I started the ball rolling with “What gender do you imagine when you think about a particular job/career/role?”. I distinctly remember this activity in the early 2000's. It was a fun and revealing thing to do.
It surfaced our (my) biases.
In our recent newsletter I explored this as a starting point for my discussion about teams and leadership. Why? Because it is interesting.
But this time I asked our graduates:
And why has it occupied my thinking about teams and leadership these last couple of weeks?
I think it is important to consider because of the limiting nature of our personal biases.
If we see in our minds a particular image when teams and leadership are mentioned this will limit who we look for. And then we potentially do not see the people who are doing it differently from our norms.
By limiting ourselves we are missing opportunities. And in a rapidly changing world it is important to grab the right opportunities. Well I think so! I figure you do also.
When Affectus works with people, whether facilitating a small working team or a large organisation, the work we do is always about the individual.
It may be about a group changing their direction. But it is the individuals that has to make the change.
Therefore, if we are considering limiting biases then to start with ourselves (understanding me) is essential.
Do you know your limiting biases when you consider teams and leadership?
Are you part of a team stretching the boundaries? Have you had a fresh look at your team? Are you looking for newness? Do you know how to do this in your busy life?
Look-up. Wipe off the biases that will be limiting your view. See some difference.
OK so that all sounds a bit vague. Perhaps you need me to be a bit more specific.
These are the scenarios I see…over and over again. I'm guessing you will have seen them also.
Which scenario is most familiar to you?
Affectus sees all the scenarios. But we experience Scenario 3 and 4 all the time.
And we see the richness that is created and the depth of understanding that is built.
New and amazing ideas are developed and presented to stakeholders.
Yes, occasionally we see stuff being flung off the fan (s**t). However, when we examine what is and has gone on in Scenario 3 and 4, mostly we witness each person focus on a leadership space that they can move into. And they do!
I don’t know about you but that is what I want when I work in a team. A team that comes together and sees the mental image that prevents people from stepping into their leadership space.
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An overview of Tuckman's Team Stages, and advice on how to get your team to the Performing Stage.
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Watch a very brief overview of Tuckman's Team Stages here
I recently sat with a mum and dad, parents of a few young kids, employees and managers. I observed their various obvious teams:
We are regularly in teams. And even when we are working independently, we are still often in a team.
Are they all effective and efficient?
As this mum and dad team chatted we uncovered their need to provide more opportunity to do some leadership development in their business and industry. It was a great conversation. I asked about how often they have undertaken a team review and developed a team enhancement plan.
We explored short term wins, long term strategy and the desire to harness and continue to refresh the workers in the industry. A bit of a plan emerged that would respond to their need to keep their work team engaged and committed to their work. AND at the same time understand how their contribution to the workplace ensures the industry remains well respected.
I spent a bit of time talking about Affectus’ philosophy and why I do what I do. We spent some time connecting the needs of my potential client and the passion Affectus brings to assist people to step into their leadership space and change the world.
It was a great conversation and both parties went home with homework to see if we could make magic happen. As I left the meeting and the handshakes were done I felt confident that I would be talking to this team about what we could provide.
It wasn’t until I got back to my desk and reflected on the conversation that I realised something else had happened.
There had been a secondary conversation about teams.
I had heard the team philosophy of a family, children and parents, through our initial conversation about holidays. My thoughts that afternoon were "what gold there was in both the conversations".
This is the learning I took from the meeting.
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Do you regularly see the activity where someone ask individuals or a group to visualise a particular career?
The questioner asks “think of a farmer - what did you imagine?” Careers that are regularly included are police, teacher, lawyer, pilot.
And although “leader” is not necessarily a vocation I still consider “think of a leader - what did you imagine?” This exercise can be revealing for us all.
Having worked in the field of developing leaders for nearly three decades, at Affectus, we are keen for people to see leaders differently.
We have seen change. However the concept of team leadership can assist with our ability to shake up leadership in a way that will embrace the concepts of courage and vulnerability. We believe these concepts have always been part of leadership.
Team leadership is what leadership has always been about. Leadership may appear a solitary occupation and yes, sometimes, it can feel lonely but, we all know that leadership is always done with teams.
Margaret Meade said
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.”
We will come back to this concept and tie these ideas together.
Leadership is about taking those around you to a new visionary future. To do this we must be in an environment where risk is OK’d. and for this to happen vulnerability must be an observable behaviour and embraced as a team value.
So, what does opening yourself up to be vulnerable do? Let’s come back to that also.
Finally, leadership is also about courage. But what allows us to be courageous?
...we need to let people have a go and be OK about making mistakes. And people need to be supported and encouraged by the team.
Can you see the connection?
Can you see how important it is for teams, vulnerability and courage to be the leadership environment? And when this environment exists all of us can be leaders - everywhere in the space we see and choose.
So now to the trickiest part in this the domain for us all.
Yes, we are all so good at this stuff. It may be some or all of the three elements.
Are these concepts essential? Well possibly not. But from my years of experience these elements, (teams, vulnerability and courage), ensure that leadership flourishes.
These elements eliminate the false focus on the single person and perfection. Both of which are counterproductive for high performance.
This environment is the environment for all.
Be comforted in knowing that if Team, Vulnerability and Courage are the concepts that are highlighted and rewarded leadership will flourish.
And then the world will change and teams will flourish. And the image in our minds-eye of “Who is a leader?” will be amazing and will include you.
Here are five tips to start your Team, Vulnerability and Courage environment.
Does spending time on your“why” stopping you from achieving outcomes?
How much time should you spend on why and how?
Can you do one without the other?
Is either essential for getting to where you want to be?
Affectus has developed a process to assist you to explore your why and develop direction. When we have delivered these powerful “pause and unearth” workshops for small groups and organisations our observations indicate that most people like to think and act.
Do you like to think and act? I like to combine the two – I rarely like to just act.
And, we have found, there is often resistance when we are just encouraged to act.
When Affectus spends time in intense sessions over weekends or mid-weeks we see the comfort levels rise and fall. The variation in comfort levels really depends on the time provided for people to think about why and act (or plan to act) on directions.
Thinking about my experience as a teacher, see Lessons From Teaching Naughty Boys Maths, “Friday Survival” wasn’t developed to get people thinking. Actually it was to distract them from thinking about 3.30 bell.
As soon as I found my why – assisting people to see their leadership space and giving them the skills and courage to step in – I understood the importance of the following:
Now I am wondering. Do you agree?
Sometimes it is thinking about the opposite that solidifies thought.
I travel alone, mostly. And on those long drives I can spend many hours thinking. (I can also do a lot of very loud singing.) I find that if I don’t pause my thinking and take the next step into what I can practically do with my ideas I can get lost.
So, here are some questions for you to consider
Affectus can guide you through the process of getting the why and how balance right. However, thinking through your responses to the above questions will certainly help you start balancing why and how.
Best of luck in your search for why and how.
This week I am going to share my personal reflection on the tension of why and action. In other words, a comparison of my why, others whys and getting on with it (action).
A few weeks ago I spent some time talking to a change leader about action being more important than why. I was not convinced by his argument.
Why? Because I am sure you, like me, have spent precious hours and resources fiddling around on busy work but not really being convinced about why I was involved. Foofing around, I call it. Sometimes when I am too tired to do anything expect foof around it is ok. But even mindless foofing is beige after just a short period of time. Don’t you think?
I have spent a good couple of weeks considering my reaction to my learned friends theory that action is more important than why. During this time, I was thinking “what was that all about”.
So, here is a summary of that reflection of my experience and conversation about Why vs Action using Affectus’ 4 Dimensions of Reflection.
Facts relating to my Why.
What do you think about those facts?
Are they too simple?
Should I spend more time thinking through the facts?
For me there are some clear themes about motivation and drive and the connection to my purpose; my why.
Feelings relating to my Why.
Golly that is revealing. When I look at those reflections I could feel very selfish. But actually, and again I would be interested in your comments, I know that my purpose is about changing the leadership outcomes for everyone I connect with and spend time with.
Mmmmm, I think I can sleep tonight.
What does the above all mean when I consider purpose, why, focus, meaning.
Well, this can be the most challenging part of thinking through and reflecting on what has happened. For the me insight when considering why is this:
Is it the same for you?
Why is complex.
I am driven by something that makes sense to me, that I love and feel committed too. Why will keep me “in” something that otherwise I may drift away from.
However, it is important to remember why is very personal. And therefore, so is the passion that drives others. So, although someone else's why might be different to ours it is still as important to them.
Ask the question rather than make assumptions. Why? Because in asking the question my purpose may connect with another’s why which will be great for both of us.
A good place to start is with a story we shared recently in our Why and How, not Why or How blog.
Read on once you have read the story of Lessons From Teaching Naughty Boys Maths.
Affectus has developed an imaginative process to help you get a hand on your why. But why is why important?
In this current climate of wondering why people are acting the way they are, there are lots of question that might start with why.
Why often flummoxes us when we look at the world.
I can remember listening to a dear friend of mine ask her young sons why they had done what they had. There was rarely a succinct answer but you could see their developing brain ponder the why.
The definition of why as a noun is a reason or an explanation and as an adverb for what reason and or purpose.
But Why is more than that.
Why is more than asking questions? It is about finding your purpose. What is your purpose? Why are you doing what you are doing?
Have you considered how to get to the bottom of why?
Do you wonder how more focused you could be?
Firstly what are the essential components to consider when exploring why?
Have you considered the values that guide you? Those values that are fundamental to you, your life.
Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. They determine your priorities.
This sometimes takes a bit of sorting. But establishing your values is the base block of your Why.
Be encouraged and reflective and uncover your values. You may be able to start seeing your What is being built as you think through your values.
If you understand your values you can see that they guide us in our decisions and our undertakings. Therefore, they are the fundamental block of what drives us. Our purpose.
After spending time considering and establishing your core values can you imagine having to operate against your values?
It is hard to imagine.
I heard a story recently about core values of the business. An interesting concept.
To know your business core values will assist you in knowing how to respond to your business environment.
Have you got your business values sorted? Perhaps you need to get your key people (notice I didn’t say executive team) around a table and discover your core business values.
Values drive our thinking, our responses, our behaviour, our actions.
When we observe others around us we can see their values on display. Generosity, greed, consideration - we see them on our trains, our roads, in our workplaces, all around us. Our values are on public display. We know this and we display our values.
Now let’s stretch your thinking about your values and your Why and connect them.
It is important to build the link between your values and your Why.
Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. They determine your priorities. Therefore, through knowing your values means you have a clear understanding of what is important to you. You can then directly link this to your purpose.
If your Why is:
then the link between your values and your Why is strong and should be considered and inseparable.
Know your values and understand that they are one of the building blocks to exploring your purpose.
To finish, we once heard an acquaintance talking about the workplace and personal values and the importance of working in a place that had similar values.
The personal story was confronting to hear. The tension in the story was clear. There were the espoused values of the organisation, however, the actual values were displayed through accepted behaviour and this created a disconnection with a disappointed employee.
Things had to change because the organisational values were not being lived and this prevented the employee from working with purpose. There was no connection. The employee considered that his purpose was not connected to the work of the organisation. The tension was too great and something had to change.
We have some other interesting blogs on why and other valuable concepts for you and your team here.
If you would like your team to find purpose contact us and we will be able to assist in just 3 hours.
Here at Affectus we have developed a process to assist you to explore your why. Our observations and research has allowed us to develop a workshop that allows you to find where your passion is and how to weave that into your life so that you can fill as much of your days with what makes you zing.
However, what is why? And is it as important as how?
A recent and insightful conversation helped me resolve this question and I believe it will assist us to not navel-gaze for too long.
Many, many years ago my professional life lead me to spend a short (but successful) time teaching in the Victorian secondary school system. I believe that schooling has changed a lot since, however, back then Friday afternoon was always faced with some level of anxiety. And, as a young graduate, Year 8 Maths on a Friday afternoon was akin to a death sentence. I always felt the anxiety build.
I learnt very quickly what to do with these lessons. I filled them with busy (and often mindless) easy photocopied maths sheets and simple mindless quizzes. I didn’t really care very much what the students received during those lessons - it was much more about all of us walking out alive as the final school bell for the week rang. It worked all the time (nearly).
The lesson I learnt was that sometimes people want busy work, but most of the time we want to use our brains. And we are driven by purpose – our purpose.
The difference between busy work and getting on with something is valuable to understand.
Continuing on with the above story of Year 8 Maths. If I had only provided busy work to these terrific young people every time I saw them during the week there would have been a real riot.
The question that constantly smacked me in the face during my three insightful and shaping years as a secondary teacher was
“what is the purpose of this activity?”
And I carried that sense of assisting people to understand purpose with me as I moved towards my leadership consultancy years.
It is all very well to keep everyone busy but wouldn’t it be better for you and me if we could find purpose. And see if it aligns with some or all of our combined skills and passions.
And now to the inevitable of questions.
Sometimes the answers to these questions are clear and identifiable? And sometimes we need to take time to respond. Whichever it is it is valuable for us to spend some time considering.
It is not always that simple. A younger person I know reasonably well said to me recently “I know I don’t love what I do every day – it is harmless and not totally against my principles, but realistically I need to pay the mortgage.”
I completely understand those sentiments. However, my advice was:
Still make time for what you are passionate about because you may be able to spend all of your time doing that when the financial stress comes off.
Just this week I had a conversation with a change management facilitator. He tried to convince me that why wasn’t important. I remain convinced that why is important.
It is important to gain understanding why we have spent our time doing something:
Why? Because it helps us identify:
Otherwise it is just busy work and we are all back stuck in Year 8 Maths doing what Briggsy told us to. Yuk!
Margie Warrel says
While there’s no one pathway for discovering your life's purpose, there are many ways you can gain deeper insight into yourself, and a larger perspective on what it is that you have to offer the world.
However, I suppose I will concede something. That if we get caught in sorting the why then we may never move onto partaking of the brilliance of what we want to be part of.
Is the “Why I am doing this? Why am I taking this pathway” more important than the “How will I do this? How will I reach the next fork in the path?"?
From my work in leadership, of more than two decades, I think they are both important. And sometimes one comes before the other. Sometimes clarity for both why and how appear simultaneously. And sometimes they occur years and years apart.
My encouragement is to ask yourself if you are in the how (I get this done) stage? And if so, spend a bit of time contemplating why? Understand does your how stage sit along with your values, passions and gifts?
And then ask yourself if you are moving through towards the end of the why (am I doing this) stage? If so, are you are pleased to have clarity that you have found your why?
And, after all that, then get on with the doing.
We have had a few people asking
Can you be more practical about challenges and change?
What else happens with change?
So, here are our thoughts about the first three phases.
When you review the change process it is important to remember that these phases don’t just happen. We move through the phases as we become aware. And we make decisions regarding our responses to the challenge we are facing.
The important message I would like to share is pertinent for those who are about to embark on a leadership learning experience.
Perhaps you are a participant commencing one of our 2019 leadership experiences. This will help you maximise your first moments or days of the experience. I know I can sometimes spin-off into the stratosphere with my ideas but to assist with clarity of my messages I am, once again, going to try to talk about my experiences and what I have observed.
At Affectus, we have found that the first three phases are often the most challenging so I have focused today's thinking there.
When you are frozen the first action to assist you and others to move on is to re-affirm that individuals are safe.
Recently I had a conversation with one of our graduates. The revelation from that conversation was that Affectus facilitators often ask participants to be fearless and have a go. This is not unlike the challenges that can face us in our day-to-day.
The graduate told me of the repeated sense of immobilisation when Affectus asked participants to take action. During these experiences, the participant developed an ability to move from the frozen moment to action. They stated that
this is because a safe space had been created.
Create the safe space for yourself through examining your concerns and acknowledging that you will be ok. Make sure you are building safe spaces to counter the immobilisation.
We have been asked
How do you recognise denial and move to the next phase?
Our observation is that this isn’t so easy. Why? Because it clearly involves honesty and self-awareness. Honesty that you want to bury your head in the sand. And awareness that you are indeed doing just that.
Patrick Lencioni talks about trust as the key element in assisting teams in raising their productivity. Brene Brown has explored the leadership concept of vulnerability. Both of these are essential to move beyond denial. Trust that you are needing to face this challenge and will be ok.
However, from my experience, it is most valuable to have someone in my team who can call it. Someone who will bravely ask
why are you not getting on with the job?
This is code for you are being an ostrich.
I recently had one of the Affectus team do just that. You should have heard the accountability (NOT) come out of my mouth. However, through the “call it” conversation it became clear that I had my head firmly in the sand. And it was gritty and uncomfortable, and the sand was getting in the way of my ability to be able to see my way out. It was so useful to have someone trust our relationship enough to call it out.
Find someone who will call it when they see you are stuck in denial.
I have someone in my network who is terrific at understanding the constant need to move people out of that space of “yep I have to change but I don’t have knowledge or skills”. In other words, assisting people to move beyond the incompetence phase.
I have observed my colleague over the years. Sometimes she jumps the gun to offer skilling up/knowledge sharing before those around her even know they are feeling incompetent. And occasionally there is resistance. But through working with her over the years I now know the questions that assist me to identify what I can do to move on from incompetence.
The first question is (and I use it often)
Do I need to do anything?
Well to be completely honest sometimes it is someone else’s role. But I know that there is always something I can or need to do. And that is not to resist and to embrace the change upon us/me/the team.
If I do need to take action the questions I have found useful are:
You will have a learning style. Find a way of learning new skills in a way that works for you.
Develop the expectation that you and your workplace welcomes and encourages the open exploration of knowledge building and skill enhancement.
The seven phases of change.
When you are facing challenges, knowing the seven phases of change will assist.
When you are frozen, unable to respond to the challenge you are facing.
When you attempt to ignore the challenge you should face.
You need to acquire skills and/or knowledge to address the challenge.
You gain insight. This IS about me and I need to respond.
You build response strategies and actions.
You personalise the challenge and establish new meaning.
Done! You have managed the challenge.
Find new meaning and make sense of change. Join us!
What happens to us when facing challenge and change.
With our amazing team of co-facilitators we “do” leadership with groups of people all over Australia. And I love it. Have I mentioned that before I wonder?
“Do” means long programs, short programs, day sessions. And, we also assist organisations to understand their value and ensure efficient teams.
We encourage and support change and assist in building confidence to take on challenges. When we “do” leadership we are constantly observing how people respond and act.
Affectus’ philosophy commences with encouraging people to find and step into their leadership space. We also incorporate the knowledge that people all learn differently, our minds work and our perception are different.
Essentially, however, each of us tends to prefer one of the following ways of learning – visual, written, listening, doing ( the VARK model). Affectus ensures that these four preferences are woven into our learning events.
It is important to know Affectus’ philosophy because…
When we ask people to move into their leadership space we understand the above but we expect people to change.
We ask them to challenge their thinking and implement change…at that moment. And we encourage attendees to see the leadership space and step into it. We support and coach them as they do, But we ask them to move from their current position and find a new place to demonstrate leadership.
Some questions about change and challenge to consider
What do you know about your responses to challenges? And to date, how have you have engaged with the change in your life? What do you know about yourself?
During our strategic thinking workshop, we use a change model that I have developed. We help people understand their responses to change. When you are in your leadership space responding to change, it is valuable to understand where your greatest leadership impact can be.
From our observations, it is important to assist people during Phase 1 and 2. To breath (sometimes literally) and acknowledge the concern and confusion. And to also understand they can move beyond these first two phases and beyond the concern and confusion.
In our experience, this is where the greatest leadership impact occurs. For leaders to step away or hope something will happen is reneging on the position they have stepped into. It is here that leadership “rubber hits the road”.
What can you do when change is upon you and your team and the challenge is real?
What can you do when you are seeing the immobilisation and denial and you are hearing the words “I don’t know how to deal with this”? You assist people to feel confident and develop competency.
Think back to last week’s article imagine if, when facing change and challenge, we also had a deep understanding that if we bring ourselves, all of our talent and knowledge and self-awareness, to a challenge how we could embrace it and respond.
Sometimes I reread my blogs and think gosh that was pretty pointed. But today as I sat down and prepared my thinking for this blog I thought back to all of the times I have been challenged in my life. From getting the arc of the baseball perfect to reach from shortstop to first base to tag the hitter, through to dealing with an unpleasant complaint made against me when I hadn’t been completely professional.
As I thought back through my challenges I remember a particular day. I remember it being exciting, challenging, confronting and scary. I’m going to take you through that day and keep on the topic “challenge and change”.
A weekend retreat in the middle of the Victorian bush with a group of about 30 people. Arrival was a little fraught. We didn’t have mobile phone GPS assistance then. I arrived in the dark and instantly relaxed as I heard the enthusiastic conversations happening inside the barracks that the group would be inhabiting for the weekend.
Food and drinks were communal. BYO and share.
Conversations and activities were to happen in the lounge room and outside was a space for “whatever”.
One short bushwalk was planning for some time and we were anticipating breaking camp after lunch on the Sunday.
Rooms were sparse (and cold). And we shared with others. Some we knew. Others we knew of. And others were soon to become connections.
The purpose of the weekend was not very tight. There were some activities/workshops available. You chose to go to what you wanted. There were robust conversations about various topics. You could engage if you were interested. Or you could sleep and wander as you wished or needed.
There were mandalas drawn, meditation and singing. And there were definitely many robust conversations.
All of this challenged me.
During the first morning, the lack of structure took me back to University days. Days where I spent much of my time finding a familiar face and following them to a lecture in the hope that it was part of my degree (I got better but golly I was bad during 1st year).
I felt vulnerable and insecure. What was I supposed to be doing? Wondering what was all of this about?
Food and drink were safe as I knew what I was supposed to be doing. That was university and day one of the retreat.
Now some of you will have heard me talk about my ball of clay that I carved that illustrates my journey. I sculpted that “magnificent item” during this retreat.
There were many people attending the retreat that I admired and respected. A couple that I idolised. I was pretty desperate to impress them if I am honest.
Towards the end of the first day as I was participating in a robust conversation about power and emotions and the fear of showing our emotions in public. One of the other attendees (who I was desperate to impress) spoke, then paused (waiting for those of us around the table to stop talking) then spoke again.
"You are enough."
I am sure this was in reaction to us all discussing our fear of being vulnerable in public. But I felt like my armour had been pierced. I felt extremely unsettled. What did that statement mean?
I fired questions…seeking reassurance.
The response was calmly sent back to my ears.
"You are enough Jill"
As I struggled with the concept of “enough” that was swirling around me I heard my voices. Most/nearly everyone has them. I call them my generational voices. They were rebelling against this concept.
Really? By whose measure? I don’t think so.
These were the words running through my head as I looked across the room seeing friendly, caring faces smiling and confirming that I was enough.
I took off. Had a wander amongst the magnificent towering eucalypts. I spent two hours walking, struggling and reconciling my sense of inadequacy.
But I returned having a deep sense of settled knowledge that “I was enough”. Yet, that didn’t mean I could sit back and take it easy. No.
The meaning I made of this statement was
Whatever I do if I bring my whole self to it, the thinking, the dreaming, the doing, then I am enough.
Why have I shared this personal story with you?
Because when I consider challenge and change and understand that sometimes my ideas might be pointy and hold expectations…
You are enough
Bring your whole self…you are enough.
How do you tackle challenge and change?
Shonda Rhimes says that the very act of doing the thing that scared her undid her fear, doing it made it not scary for her.
What an interesting concept that is.
A number of years ago (actually many) I was friends with some of the SAS fellas (and it was only fellas back then). Their weekends comprised doing things together that would scare many of us – rigid.
They did all sorts of amazing and challenging stuff while I watched movies or slept. One of the SAS fellas, let’s call him Phil, was a good friend. He asked quietly, over my fourth drink on a Saturday night in a pub in Melbourne, whether my friend and I would like to go to Hanging Rock with him and a couple of mates. Now the movie Picnic at Hanging Rock (the original one – I’m not going to give you the year…you have to do that work) had only been out for 7 or so years. And although I had been to the Hanging Rock after the scary-as-hell movie release it still made me squirm a bit. Now, remember I was on my fourth drink.
“Yeah sure…are we just doing the picnicking thing?” I enquired.
Phil was pretty straight up sort of a bloke, “Nah, we are going to do some abseiling down the longest straight drop.”
In my head, I instantly thought of some of the surfie chicks I had watched during my summer holidays. They had been sitting on the cliffs watching their boyfriends having all the fun (not that any of them were my boyfriend). But before I could raise this issue Phil added, “Have you and Jenny ever done that before? We could teach you, we are all pretty experienced and have all our certificates”.
Well, the short story is we did. And we did including running face forward down the longest drop. It was so cool I don’t think I came down from the high for days!
Had it been the cheap wine (I was a uni student at the time) that had given me the courage? Or was it the confidence I had in my friend Phil?
Was it the public status he and his gang of friends had? Or was I just at that age that yes came easier?
Do I consider that, actually, was I ridiculously risky in my behaviour?
Some would say yes to that question, I do come from a family of varying risk profiles.
What happens when we take on a challenge? And how should we frame those challenges so that they don’t scare us away.?
What is the link between challenge and leadership and change?
Let’s consider those concepts bit by bit.
What happens inside when we take on challenges and succeed?
There are two general responses when we see a challenge ahead or know that we need to take a risk. This is my experience of observing hundreds of clients approach the challenges we provide for them.
These responses are:
Now neither of these are the “correct” response they are just different. And of course ,there is plenty of greyness in between the two responses.
What do you know about your responses to challenges?
And to date, how have you have engaged with the challenges in your life?
What do you know about yourself now that you have had a look back?
Delving further into this first question there is a link between the grey matter we have in our brains and our responses to challenges. And there is also a link to dopamine.
But our responses happen in our brain…so what happens in your brain?
What have you learned about taking on challenges and succeeding or being unable to complete them?
When we are involved in a leadership role understanding how we respond to challenges is important. And, let’s face it, we know many people in leadership roles who resist challenges and risk.
Is that a problem? I don’t think so as long as they are aware of their responses.
Going back to the abseiling. What did I learn about challenges and me?
Here they are. I
Now onto challenges and change. Can you see the link?
There is no doubt in my mind that challenges require us to change what we are thinking or doing. Otherwise there would be no change happening around us.
Perhaps that is a bit simplistic. But they are connected.
When considering leadership we choose to step into our leadership space when we see that change needs to happen and that can be challenging.
Finally, I would encourage you to have a read of some of the links we have gathered for you about risk and challenge.
And please be encouraged to take on the challenge when you are working with us this year. You will see the benefit and you will be supported by the teams we will build around you.
"To lead an authentic life, we need to take on new challenges that stretch us and give us more opportunities to be ourselves." - Stephen Joseph
I have a desire to constantly be stretched. I love that feeling in my brain when I can feel new understanding happening and deeper insights being grasped. Do you?
In my desire to be stretched regularly I plan out activities and events in my calendar. I d so that each year I do one or a number of things the keep my brain expanding.
In 2018 I did a number of things but during November I put all of my in-kind community volunteering hours into assisting a young woman in her attempt to secure a seat in the Victorian parliament.
Not only did I know that the values that would drive the campaign would align with mine I had also spent enough time in her presence to know that she was making this run at the Victorian parliament with the best of intentions.
I cleared my calendar for the whole of November and dived into being her campaign manager.
What did I learn about careful communication during this intense month?
Mostly I learnt about myself, of course. But I also learnt about the power of communication to connect. I learnt this for myself and I watched it happen with Jacqui.
Pascal Molenberghs, in an article about inspiration and leadership, talks about language and the use of we and I when involved in communication. He also talks about developing a vision and creating outcomes. These were such essential elements in the campaign. However, Molenberghs’ article needs to include more detail. Specifically about the importance of how to carefully communicate around these apparently simple concepts.
Here are my top five.
If you are rushed for there is significant pressure that hearing the message is hard and important ideas are missed or misunderstood.
If it is noisy find somewhere else or ask to revisit the communication at a better time.
If you are distracted or pressured find another time.
If there is angst and confusion attend to the issue but continue to paraphrase as the communication continues so that the messages remain focused on the issue.
If you feel yourself distracted reapply your careful listening skills.
Julian Treasure gives a terrific short talk about listening and what our brain does to assist us with listening. He talks about how much harder it is to “pay attention to the quiet, the subtle and the understated”. However, this is exactly what I saw during the campaign. The importance of listening and making the time to listen meant that Jacqui almost did it. She almost won the seat. And she did it because she carefully communicated with everyone she came in contact with.
Are you thinking about your communication? Wondering why listening is important?
Let's move from the careful listener space to how it feels to be listened to. There will be questions asked to assist you to remember and then reinforce the importance of listening and the space of leadership and trust that a listening environment builds.
So, what is careful communication and why has Affectus claimed this concept?
The art of careful communication is getting yourself set to hear and understand.
Careful communication starts with understanding careful.
Careful means to be done with thought and showing attention.
What would listening, and the broader communication space, be like if we were careful in our communication? Careful communication is to engage in a communication process with thought and attention.
Now let’s examine careful listening.
Here is where the questions start…
When I have been listened to and heard I am grateful:
And I am grateful for the above, no matter what has been shared. I feel a shift and an appreciation, like my thoughts have been cared for by another. Careful communication.
I would now encourage you to pause and think back…
Revisit when you were the speaker and rethink your communication moments.
By thinking back and wondering about careful communication we gain insight into how we may become more effective communicators.
And now the link to leadership.
With over 30 plus of working in leadership and learning, I am overwhelmed by the increase in leadership acumen when an individual simply becomes a better listener.
Our leadership stakes increase when we cease being the speaker and provider of our “vast and endless wisdom” (read sarcastic face) and enter into careful communication by listening effectively. This TedTalk talks to this.
I have to remind myself when I am facilitating our leadership workshops and programs, that people want to find their own solutions. And to do that I must spend time listening and providing the environment for trust to flourish and ears and minds need to be open so hearing is present.
Think about how to create an environment where listening is done within an environment of careful communication. And now consider what are the two adjustments you will make to create an environment of careful communication? How will you work on yourself to build your careful communication?
Have you thought about how you are communicating with those around you?
What about rethinking your day-to-day communication? Especially now that the start of the year “catch-up” is over.
And not wanting to jump the gun because for some holidays are still on but, what about your children as they head back to care and school?
Let’s start by making a bold statement.
The importance of communication can’t be over stated.
We hear statements like “keep communicating” and “take time to it communicate” but what is communication and how can you up your prowess?
Communication is the skill we all employ to move our thoughts from our mind into another’s conscious thought.
Don’t you wish it was that simple?
It is a simple concept. An open mind connecting with another open mind through speaking and listening.
However, what we know, day-to-day is communicating isn’t that easy. We continue to work under the assumption that “I am talking and so the person I am talking at is listening”.
From my experience and observations it is clear that we all try to communicate effectively but “life” gets in the way of us communicating well.
So, let’s start with the element of listening.
How would you rate your listening on a scale of 1 to 10?
Are you an 8 or somewhere near a 10?
How do you know this? How have you developed your self-awareness?
Or do you figure you are closer to the middle or the lower end of the scale?
When have you been given this feedback and by whom? Have a think and explore your understanding of “me as a listener”.
It is important to understand the components of this communication element.
Can we make a commitment to listen better in 2019? I wonder?
Last year I was told, in a particularly stressful environment, that I wasn’t listening. I found that a challenging comment as I thought listening was one of my skills.
On reflection, I realise I wasn’t doing all of the listening components at the time. And that was because I was juggling a number of activities at one time. So, what did I learn that will assist you?
These were steps I thought I was displaying. But I wasn’t signalling to the speaker that I was listening because I was not physically positioning myself. I hadn’t stopped walking nor had I turned my body in a manner that demonstrated I was listening.
And I also know, because it was at that moment that I was told “you are not listening”, that my eyes were not focused on the speaker. They were flitting around my environment as I tried to keep a handle on the activities that my attention had been taken from.
So, therefore, I needed to mentally and physically get myself switched on to listen. But I also forgot to shut down my other thinking, which was saying “there is something else (more important?) that you need to be attending to”.
How can you keep that part of your thinking under control? How do you keep that part of your mind under control so that you can be fully listening?
Well here is my learning.
I know I am truly listening when the speaker stops talking and I am able to reflect back what I have heard. AND that it takes me some time to add my opinion.
In moments of listening, really listening, I have managed to completely shut down the parts of my brain that think:
It’s hard to do. But it is rewarding.
What are your personal processes that drop you into to ensure you are effectively listening?
In 2019, let’s listen. Let’s set up our behaviours and thinking so that we can slot into effective listening – as soon as we comprehend that listening is required.
I suppose the importance of communication can’t be over-communicated. But really, what is communication?
A bit of a revision lesson here.
Communication is simply (wry smile)…transferring your thoughts into words (written or spoken). And then sharing them with the world. And trusting that the way in which you have transmitted those thoughts ensures that the people receiving your communication synthesise the content in a way so that closely resembles your thoughts. So that sentence wasn’t simple and we know, intuitively, that the practice of communication is not simple either.
On the other hand when we are in the presence of a skilled communicator that movement of “a thought to your thought” is easier.
Often when in a leadership learning experience, the entrance point to re-examining our communication prowess is speaking. This can give the impression that speaking is the most important communication element. Please don’t misunderstand me, nailing your public speaking, is important but listening is the first element to attend to.
I recently spent time in the presence of a focused woman. And I spent significantly more time in the car with her as we travelled our region of Australia, assisting her to understand the community issues. I was assisting. She was the key person in our team and it was a gift for my understanding to watch her and then reflect on what I had observed.
Now before I go ahead and provide you with my observations here is my challenge to you – ditch “great speaker = amazing public address” thinking, perhaps just this once, and consider someone you know who has listened to you as you spoke.
The art of careful communication is getting yourself set to hear and understand.
Do you set yourself up to hear and understand when you are listening?
Careful communication could mean a number of things. Careful has one meaning which suggests caution and tentativeness. The other definition is more useful to my mind…done with thought and showing attention.
Let’s go back to remembering how you felt when you were listened to. When we are listened to we feel that the other person is giving us their attention and doing it in an open, thoughtful way. Are you listening in a careful way now? I hope so.
If we (definitely read “I” here also) commence our careful communication with careful listening as the starting action then all sorts of opportunities open up to us.
I think about all of you as I write, this our community all over Australia. And I see all of you heading...
and I think about you all in careful communication mode. And I see problems diminished and others being valued.
Doesn’t that sound like leadership?
The art of careful communication is, of course, not only about listening. It is also about speaking.
Consequentially, I would consider similar principles.
Talking extraverts - are they any other sort? I believe there is. As one, if I could also bring to my oral communication the same principles of thought and attention how much more effective might I be. I would be considering my words before I say them and I would think through the audience. And I would be imagining the transfer of the information into the persons' thought-processes.
What else would I be doing?
Well, I would also be attending and pay attention to the responses of those I am speaking with. Looking at their faces and unconscious reactions to what I am saying. Building on this feedback and adjusting all elements of my communication.
The careful art of communication is about thinking about the other…not thinking about self.
This doesn’t mean not having ideas and opinions. What it does mean is considering and acknowledging that communication is always two-way and for it to be two-way we have to do carefully.
Affectus has emerged out of the summer break with a bounce. We have a new addition to our growing team, you will meet her in a moment, and we have had a break. But mostly my December/January has been a time of intense listening.
If our theme for this newsletter is communication then I have to say how I am constantly reminded about listening. As in listening being the fundamental-of-fundamentals of who we are and how we can be our best selves.
I have the privilege of putting my entire year of voluntary work into November. Some of you will have observed my activity assisting a woman from Wodonga who had a tilt at a state seat in the Victorian election. It was such fun and might work. And by golly she got sooooo close.
The November Volunteering actually started well over 12 months prior to the election being called and my leadership learnings from the entire 18 months will remain with me forever.
So as Affectus’ year revs up these are the ideas I will commit to (again).
I believe I am a good listener. But, during the election campaign, the effort of listening, capturing and moving other’s thoughts into outputs and action under pressure was an amazing experience. I have a completely renewed appreciation of what we put you through during our programs.
Looking forward to seeing you all during 2019.
Have you ever considered success?
In an article in our recent graduate newsletter recently we discussed the concept of success. We discussed whether perhaps success is about self-determined success.
I would love to discuss this in a little more depth.
When we discuss success and how it happens we talk about what it looks like. This discussion is either pretty straightforward or rather challenging depending on the individual and their understanding of purpose. Success is not unlike your "why" but I think it has a harder edge.
You determine what success is.
Get rid of any others who may tell you what success is.
Ask what does success look like to me? My day, my month, my workplace?
However, firstly, it requires you determining what is success.
I think it looks like hands on hips, direct gaze, strong voice and simple statement.
For me, it is not about that really big picture. The picture of “I want to make sure everyone in my orbit locates and steps into their leadership space”, which by the way I am still focused on.
It is more a smaller puzzle piece of the bigger picture. Like hands on hips, clear gaze, thoughtful voice.
Something like "in this part of the project, everyone will have a sense of their own leadership power and will have experienced that leadership is always about teams".
My observations are that when people self-determine what they want then the path of getting there and making it happen becomes clearer.
What are the simple thinking processes that might help you get to the harder edge self-determined success?
To start the self-determined success with these questions:
What does success look like to me?
What do I want at the end of this? Satisfaction? Recognition?
What personal behaviours have got in the way in previous attempts to be successful? How will I adjust these behaviours?
Are you seeking approval from others about measuring your success? Examine this need and work on the unhelpful need for that approval.
Is someone else going to assist you in being accountable? Think about who can support and celebrate your success with you.
What actions do you need to put in place today to move you today? Tomorrow? Next month? Write them down and speak them out.
Richard St John has a quick Ted-X talk that has some interesting tips about success.
He talks about how he got there and also what happened when he got to his goal. It is short and interesting. I am not completely convinced about all of his messages but his self-knowledge about how his thinking and attitude change when he reached his goal is valuable.
It would appear, no matter where you look, success is about ticking off on an aim or accomplishing your purpose. It would appear simple and if the graduates from this year's national programs were authoring this article they would “yeah-nah” nothing simple about it.
Riachard Branson says
“Too many people measure how successful they are by how much money they make or the people that they associate with,”
He also wrote on LinkedIn.
“In my opinion, true success should be measured by how happy you are.”
I often feel a little jaded when I hear hyper-rich people say these things but actually, I think he is right.
Acclaimed author Maya Angelou believed success is about enjoying your work. Her take on success is:
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”
Perhaps Success is about self-determined success.
When I have observed our participants over the years the greatest level of achievement I see is when we do the skills sessions and guide. But, we keep our hands out of the goal-setting components and we let individuals and/or teams determine what they want to achieve. In fact when our facilitators have started influencing and steering direction the team moves away and the outcomes are less.
So the key is to determine what you want…is it not?
Perhaps we each need to listen, feel vulnerable and modify. But the energy is highest when we say
“that is what I want to achieve”.
Michelle Obama says that she has observed that
“Success isn’t about how much money you make. It’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.”
Now I know that some of you reading this have self-proclaimed cash registers for hearts. BUT I also know that those same people care deeply about the people around them and the difference that they are making for the greater good.
We can see that success is not a simple concept. And it is definitely not when you combine it, as Affectus does, with our ethos of leadership.
Then what should we make of this and what might success look like?
Perhaps success and attaining it is about understanding your responses to a series of questions that only you can answer?
Or if it is group success; questions that the group has to agree on a combined answer?
If it is about self-determined ideas then we would suggest that these questions might assist you if you are seeking success.
All things that push us along require thinking and rarely require telling. We have learned, over our three decades of working with people, to provide the skills and the knowledge but to go really easy on the telling and direction.
Leveraging your leadership goals can be challenging. How do you leverage your leadership? What effort does it take?
Here are the Affectus Seven Steps to Leadership Leverage that we have found most effective.
What do you want to change? And how do you use the lever?
Get clarity about effort. Talk about it and test your thinking.
Understand the personal effort required to lever for change.
Bring other people in: people who understand the change you are aiming for.
Build your fulcrum with the pivot point using all the people as your fulcrum.
Position the people in a way that will maximise the effort you will all apply.
And now push. Gently, quickly and with all the force you can muster. Push.
For more information on leveraging leadership, read our other articles here.
What does leverage look like? Sound Like? Feel Like?
And how can you lever so that things move rather than becoming immovable objects.
You know that recent spat about the Sydney Opera House sails being used for advertising? Leaving aside that I was a little surprised that the decision was made, it was an interesting case of leverage don’t you think?
I am not going to side-up here. But some of the levering was pretty loud and aggressive and driven by a big personality. Some levering was more active and included lots of names and quite a big mob.
So, what could putting pressure on the lever sound like?
How can you press on the lever without alienating those who might assist you press on the lever?
It has to sound like an honest conversation doesn’t it?
If it is an attempt to manipulate someone, then using this form of leverage there will eventually be a recoiling. And golly, when that happens…when that happens…
Well, we saw what happened. The big personality had to (again) apologise.
It sounds like trusting your idea with others. But knowing that you have done the thinking that if the sharing isn’t received well then you share again. Perhaps you revise, but you continue to understand the need for a shift to happen.
It sounds like you listening and adding, don’t you think?
Remember the power of the fulcrum in levering.
Remember that, initially, you need to build a fulcrum and then you position your idea in a way that makes the most of the pressure you will apply.
It feels like understanding why and feeling the future.
It feels like you are clear and focused. You can see where you are headed and you want to go there.
But, I believe the pivot needs others who will assist in the movement you are determined to make. And all of that feels like understanding and shared knowledge.
That feeling happens through communication.
Why is this important?
I have done a lot of thinking about leverage and change.
I have a weed that grows in my garden. It is called marshmallow (nice name but a rotten weed). It is useful to assist with nettle stings (which also grow in my garden and yes, I am not much of a gardener). And if I don’t get the levering right, the marshmallow just breaks off and grows a deeper tap root that is twice as difficult to lever out!
Yep thinking about how others are going to respond to the change is really important. Why? To ensure you don’t simply entrench what you are trying to move. That, in your effort to level, you snap it off and the entrenched thinking/doing becomes further entrenched.
Can’t the pressure be about the doing also?
Well of course. After all, it is all about getting something done. A group to a new place or a great project started and finished. But yep it does have to start with and continue to be about the talking. And, the bigger the shift the more and the smarter the talking required.
Leverage – get on with it.
Are you conscious of what levers you are pulling? The levers around you? What lever have you put pressure on today?
This week, we discuss why to use leverage.
I have been doing some volunteer work for many months to help me make further sense of the theoretical. Doing this always helps me when I am trying to get my head around something new. I hope it will help you too.
Nearly a year ago a smart, connected person in my local community asked me to meet her for a coffee in my town, Rutherglen. This was such a pleasure on so many levels:
We started the standard how are you and what are you up to conversation.
We knew each other, but it is always important to know a little more.
This was all very pleasant. The beverages were good, the ambience was comfortable – tick, tick.
We soon moved onto "what have you been thinking about for your next stretch"?
Those of you who know me know that I can never resist this topic. I love being asked it and figure it is a safe enough question to ask everyone (never assume Jill).
By asking that question the conversation moved to the next level.
My friend shared with me that she was thinking of putting her hand up for the State Election. Now that was greeted with much enthusiasm. I had watched her, with admiration, engage thoughtfully and wisely at a “p” (that is a small p) level for a few years now. What a gift she would be to my electorate.
The conversation quickly moved from “woohoo” to let’s think about this seriously. We teased out the concept of disruption and/or systemic change – it was both. Change this up and change them for the better. Another tick.
I was in! Disruption with a purpose, please!
The conversation then moved to leverage.
What did she have, on which she could put downward pressure, to ensure the disruption resulted in systemic change for the better? What were the available levers?
What were the levers within easy grasp? Well, she had:
My friend had sorted all of the above out before we sat down that morning in Rutherglen. (I told you she was smart.) But, what was exciting was to see that just by having the conversation with me one lever had been pressed and I was moving things for her (in my mind and as I left the café). I had been levered and as a direct result by the end of the day, I had moved three other people.
By the time we said cheerio we had worked our way through the first four steps of Affectus Leadership Leverage and were well on the way to working on the next three steps.
Are you conscious of the levers around you? What lever have you put pressure on today? Which of the seven steps have you worked through?
As we move through “graduation season” at Affectus it is a great time to reflect on “what next” for our graduates.
We spend time discussing how to leverage the life-changing, new-direction-setting leadership experiences to courageously alter your world for the better.
Our facilitators ask people to make a commitment and to publicly state what they are going to focus on now. And we remain committed to continuing the conversation about leadership leverage.
I have found it helpful to sometimes blend my first career as a science educator with my passion “leadership learning” and in the case of leadership, I head back to Physics 101.
Leverage is all about the effort and moving a load to a new place.
Now I am not going rabbit on too long with my physics lesson. I wasn’t actually very good at Physics but I did understand the simple seesaw lever concept. But it is valuable to think through the concept of levering within a framework that makes sense. That is, a plank on a fulcrum with pushing on one end to change the position of the opposite end.
If you have been part of a leadership program or experience perhaps you have had the option to build teams and take action during the program. And reflect on the process you have developed and tested. Perhaps you have also had an opportunity, toward the conclusion, to future-gaze and consider what next – for you and for your passion.
I have often thought when I have completed life-changing activities – so what next and where to now.
This is where leverage comes into its own.
But let’s think it through. It is at that point, that point of “I could do anything”, that point that your effort can be most effectively used. How can you make the most of this moment? There will be more just like it. But there is something extra exciting about the energy we carry with us as we leave a leadership program.
Here is my thinking…I wonder what you think?
Work out what it is you are wanting to shift. What do you want to change? We could call this a “change plank”. Then you need to consider how to use the plank to get others to move.
Get clarity about your affect. Talk it out. Test your thinking. Hone it to a refined concept.
Understand the personal effort you will need to put in to create the change. What time is required? What skills are needed? What is the necessary knowledge?
Relook at the effort and consider how to increase that effort by bringing other people in. People who understand the change that you are hoping for.
The fulcrum is the pivot point on which the seesaw sits (a simple lever). I like to imagine the fulcrum as all the additional people who will understand the change needed as we share the need. We need to consider who might these people be and where are they. Then we can share the idea and bring them together.
I see the people who we share the change with as a coordinated collection putting their combined hands under the “change plank” at just the right point – close to me or a distance away.
And then our team (from Step 4) begin to put downward pressure on the plank and the opposite end of the change plank is raised to a new height.
I know, I know, it is a bit clunky. But, it is about understanding that when you work with a group on an idea you have a strong combined effort that will overcome the resistance and lift the load. By gaining support from a wider group of others this will assist to raise the load. And this group, in a strategic place, means the lift will be even easier and the load at the opposite end will be raised.
Work on the power of your leverage.
This week I spent a couple of minutes talking with Libby Gorr and Cameron Schwab about the language of leadership. We spoke about the importance of understanding the difference between leader, leadership and management.
In the work that we do at Affectus, the language of leadership matters and matters a lot.
There are the conceptual words that swirl around leadership.
And then there are the overarching words that frame leadership.
When talking about the overarching these are the key ones that we need to get our head around.
Leadership is the decision to act and affect with a group of others. This group, generally, have an understanding of and an agreement with the direction being taken or the endpoint that has been established.
A Leader is an individual who commands the group and usually has a title. This title is often bestowed by the group.
Management, generally, is about the process of dealing with and/or controlling people or things.
In my conversation with Libby and Cameron, we talked about the importance of understanding the difference between leadership and leader.
Cameron and I agreed that leadership is a decision and an action and done with others. While leading is about a title which comes and goes.
We also discussed management being very different to leadership. That leadership is about finding a direction and moving there. Management, on the other hand, is much more focused on achieving results.
Of course, it is clear that these two concepts can be undertaken by the one person. However, different thinking is required when demonstrating leadership or providing management.
See, the words are important because they change our way of thinking and therefore our actions. Language is incredibly important.
And then there are the other words…
The words that swirl around leadership; the decision to take action and then to act with a group of other like-minded people.
These are the most common words our people, participants and graduates mention when leadership is reviewed at the conclusion of our programs and events. And this is what you and I seek when undertaking leadership action.
What leadership do you see demonstrated around you?
I see people being courageous, communicating their vision and living and speaking their passions. We work with people who understand that empathetic, open, insightful leadership is what they are striving to demonstrate.
So how do we (you and I) get to a new level of leadership?
Read our other leadership blogs here.
Is it really only three weeks since Scott Morrison became the 30th Australian Prime Minister?
It is fascinating to see how quickly we move onto “the next thing” in this churn of media. Who won the US Open? What has happened with the typhoon in Japan? Florida? What is the latest with Brexit (no dancing please Theresa).
For those of us fascinated by, observers and facilitators of leadership "the-week-that-was" remains pretty fresh.
The words that I typed on Wednesday as I headed to Hobart to speak at the Women in Leadership Australia Symposium, may have reflected some of the frustration that the country was feeling. I feared that many would be thinking “here we go again”. As my frustration cooled on the Friday-to-end-all-Fridays I spent time considering what could I say, what might I write. And, would I have the skill to describe my deepest worries about the message this gave to everyone that leadership is transactional and about squaring some imaginary ledger.
What I felt we witnessed was the evening of scores. Even if that is not what it was that is how it appeared.
In leadership how you are seen and observed and the messages this sends are important.
What many of us know is that leadership is not about wearing the leaders crown. However, it is interesting that it is the tussle that we focus on.
Thankfully leadership is not about the crown.
The leader is about the crown-wearing. But as we witnessed that crown slips. The crown is taken. The head gets old, stale, out-of-touch and/or has kicked too many on the way up.
What is my take?
It is this. That what we saw was about being the leader. However what many of us were hoping for was leadership – us, not me! An open stance and ideal that includes us.
I am going to move this away from the federal stage and talk about the organisations we work with and the individuals who engage in our programs.
Why does this happen?
Why has it happened in your local voluntary committee, small business, workteam?
Now I don’t want to simplify what is complex, but sometimes the simple can assist. If we want to move beyond “who is wearing the crown and I want the crown” thinking and behaviour, then perhaps we have to understand what the crown can be.
If we are motivated (only or predominantly) to wear the leaders crown then is it possible to think about the crown being bigger than singular.
Does there have to only be one crown? Please don’t read that as “everyone gets a prize”. That is not what I am saying. And yes, in some circumstances, there is only one crown (party politics maybe). Lizzie wears the crown! Hmmmmm.
But perhaps the issue is about bloody minded I want to have that crown VS actually we are all incredibly important here. We
I also reckon we also need to understand that the crown is a bit of a pain. You have to keep cleaning it. And you have to keep making sure that someone else doesn’t want to steal it or kill you to get it. You then need to have guards and sometimes the guards can’t trusted.
How would that look?
Would it help Scott Morrison and his ilk if there was no crown?
Would it be more useful to acknowledge the reality that everyone is part of the us and valuable.
I am not in Lalaland. When people understand that there is no crown, that there might be:
Then, the concept of the crown is an illusion.
Except for Lizzie’s of course. She has a real crown. And my understanding is that many before her have been killed to put the crown on their head.
Is it a leader or leadership, and does it matter?
Is it self-leadership or just leadership? Is it about me or others?
Leader or leadership?
Affectus believes it is all about leadership and everyone understanding that they have the potential to undertake leadership roles.
Leader or Leadership? Leader is about the individual whereas leadership is about the ability, behaviour and action of an individual and or a group.
The title Leader is often bestowed by others on an individual. "She is our leader; he is leading us”.
Whereas demonstrating leadership is a choice of an individual or a group.
From our research and observations, the role of leader can be transient and can disappear quickly as seen through the demise of Malcolm Turnbull. This doesn’t mean Mr Turnbull can’t go on and demonstrate leadership or claim the leader crown in another role. However, if we, individually or as a group (or party, committee or team), put our focus on the leader rather than leadership then the activities similar to those of 20–24 August can consume our energies. And as a result, those who we might assist become less important or invisible.
Of course, organisations need people in roles and responsibilities. BUT, if individuals are focused only on the role they can occupy then the strategic focus is blurred or can be hijacked. For example, Bill Shorten’s jump in popularity when he has been lagging so badly.
At Affectus, we believe language is incredibly important.
The University of Washington has a concise paper on the choice of words.
To contextualise the faculties information this is why effective language and words are important.
Choice of words assists with sorting the following:
Reflecting on the leadership machinations in the federal sphere the words that were used publicly framed the leadership position of the individuals. (We will never know what happened privately.) Think on Peter Dutton’s press moments; on Malcolm Turnbull’s public statements; on the lack of words from Morrison. What leadership did we see demonstrated?
There is a whole heap of material that we can imagine. However, all we could really count on was what was coming out of mouths in the public sphere. It framed our thinking and gave us insight into future leadership behaviour.
Historically, Australia has witnessed public figures speak words that have gone on to define them, frame them forever. “The Real Julia”, “God Save the Governor General”, “I didn’t inhale”, just to quote a few.
It is so important to consider our words, both written and spoken. Specifically, when we are thinking about leadership and our leadership aspirations.
Therefore, the concepts of self-leadership and leadership are worth considering.
How do self-leadership and leadership differ?
I can remember having a valuable discussion about these two concepts a number of years ago when I was consulting with a number of under-grads about moving through their studies and finding their leadership space. The group of 80 students came to the same conclusion as I had a number of years earlier.
That conclusion was the same leadership principles that I hold as important apply whether I am leading myself or occupying a leadership role within a group.
What do we find when we transfer that thinking to the federal political sphere?
What happens when we extend that concept?
Well, in the words of a retired Federal politician...
"They (the politicians) appear to be morally bankrupt."
How can this be? How could it have come to this? These are actually all good people…I am completely sure of that. While I don’t agree with them I am sure they are thoughtful people.
I will get off my soapbox in a moment, but actually, I think the understanding of self-leadership and what we all bring to that space and the leadership roles we occupy cannot be separated.
Therefore, if you are motivated only by you and what you can get then perhaps reconsider stepping into the public sphere.
Or, potentially, if you are going to step into a public representative role, find someone to be your compass and keep your ambitions for ambition only in check. Because the people you are representing are reading you... all the time.
The health of your organisation and trust are intrinsically linked.
Below are ten steps to building trust in your organisation to improve your organisational health.
Build the trust… Work on organisational health.
To read our other articles on organisational health, click here.
On Wednesday I spent the day in the company of 100 terrific women and addressed the assembled group about culture and change. It seemed to connect well with and put a focus on organisational health. It was wonderful to hear the thoughts of the great speakers who preceded the panel session and the women who addressed the room to conclude the day.
As I thought through the messages and questions I heard and responded to, I applied the organisational health filter as I reflected after the event.
My first understanding was how the personal becomes organisational.
The women who spoke provided key messages about:
They provided valuable encouragement to have a go, to stand-up and to feel the fear. Because you can see the leadership needed it therefore fits you and your leadership size and capacity.
We all talked about how to champion change.
The conversation also stretched to the workplace and:
Well, you could call a party room (oops did I actually say that? I meant workplace) meeting and ensure issues are discussed.
Or...you could do the thinking and get your ideas well sorted. Start thinking through your approach to ensure the change that must happen actually occurs.
The other thing I noticed during Wednesday’s session was how stories and connecting with people’s heart and finding out about their why assists you in getting your opinions heard. I also observed that when I put the solutions into the room people were writing and follow-up conversations affirmed that hearing some solutions was really useful.
So, the solutions for understanding your organisation and its health. It starts with questions:
We have developed an initial thinking process template for an internal organisational health activity.
Before you launch into the process I would counsel you to consider the first step and a leadership task. Assess one of the key organisational atmospherics. Assess whether there is an embedded sense of trust and openness? This needs to be the first step because leading your organisation through an organisational health process will not necessarily provide a strong action agenda if the team/tribe/people have a low level of trust/openness.
How do you develop trust quickly?
Why would you ask that? You can but think about why you are wanting to do that...
The more important question is how can I ensure we have the internally robust atmosphere of trust.
Now that you have sorted that, and you have run an eye over the level of openness and trust, you can safely embark on reviewing the organisational health from a broader perspective. Our template may assist you.
We, of course, are happy to develop a customised process for your team. And now you will know what our first question will be; trust and openness – how are you tracking?
Read our other blogs on organisational health here.
You may be wondering why organisational health is important.
I have been investigating organisations (for years), individuals who make up these organisations and now organisational health. I respond to the concept of organisational health from the personal perspective, with a leadership overlay. That is, why do I do this? It's because my mantra has always been “it starts with me (you) and leadership is for everyone and all the time”.
Our recent Alumni newsletter explored the idea of organisations and organisational health, but let’s start with you and me.
What is the link from individual to organisational health?
And how can the individual impact positively on organisational health?
Many months ago I was having a mentoring conversation with one of Affectus’ mentees. We were talking about how he felt at work and how he felt about work.
The conversation went included questions like:
The conversation the mentoring session prior to this had been:
Both these mentoring sessions were valuable to the mentee and me. Why? Because it assisted in understanding more about the impact of the individual on organisational health and vice versa.
The value of the conversation was that the mentee during the first conversation was clear that either he had missed the goals, vision and values of the organisation or that there were none.
Understanding these options would have assisted him to be less reactive about his feelings about the workplace. As well as being more proactive and display personal leadership. And that would then have a positive impact on the organisation and organisational health.
The first conversation allowed him to step back into the workplace and ask some questions of his line-manager about goals, vision and value. Leadership conversations then ensued about organisational communication and autonomy.
This simple “what are we all about and what are we achieving” brought forth important thinking and discussions. Those discussions allowed my mentee to feel significantly more connected to the workplace and the goals. Why? Because the goals were there and the vision was there; the communication just hadn’t been.
Further down the path, it allowed the mentee then to think through:
It was clear that his value was not being demonstrated to the organisation. The autonomy and goal-kicking he was doing were not well observed. His leadership allowed him to bring this to the attention of the managers.
At Affectus, we consider organisational health very important. We understand the impact it has on the organisation and the individual. And we also know that the leadership required to undertake these conversations is considerable.
We encourage you to think about how healthy is your organisation? And what can you do to improve the current state?
We can all bring organisational health onto the agenda.
Organisational health, as defined by www.organizationalhealth.com, is an “organization’s ability to function effectively, to cope adequately, to change appropriately, and to grow from within.”
There is some sense that organisational health is comprised of a number of areas. Some suggest there are many areas that Affectus deals with but let’s have a look at a few:
When Affectus considers the above areas we understand again the importance of our work in the leadership space. However, it is really valuable to consider why it is important to review and lead in the area of organisational health.
We have collected many anecdotes over many years that illustrate organisations who take organisational health seriously. Also, unfortunately, those who haven’t. We are not sure about the direct connection with financial benefits. However, it goes without saying that in our years we see organisations who consider these aspects have more engaged and rewarded people.
About four years ago Affectus was invited to be part of a business review. We attended as thought leaders to assist the organisation move beyond their current market position. It was a fascinating day asking “why” “what else” “really?” “how about this left field idea?”. However, as we drove away, our debrief and reflective conversation concepts where:
Outcome: At the time the company was at the leading edge of the industry. Currently, they are a long way ahead of the pack.
At precisely the same time and by coincidence, Affectus began mentoring a couple of employees within another organisation in a different industry. Both mentees self-identified as middle-level supervisors.
We heard stories that concerned us for the future of the business. Therefore, key areas we encouraged the mentees to action were:
Outcome: This business, as highly regarded as they were, lost key and “edge of chaos” staff. One staff member exited the businesses and specifically mentioned the need for the business to think through autonomy, communication and team. It is also clear that this organisation has disengaged with leadership skilling of staff.
It is important to understand how valuable it is to review organisational health. In early 2019 Affectus will be developing an organisational health program. This program will provide further opportunity to get a better handle on your organisational health.
If you are reading this and wondering what steps can I take now to get a better handle on my organisation's health we encourage you to review the workshops you have attended. We are sure, through our evaluation processes, that our workshops and programs have a very positive impact. Sometimes the knowledge and information we provide need to be looked at again.
If you have attended an Exploring Your Why Workshop or a Chaos workshop, relook at your thinking. Consider how can this be relevant to my organisation. Plus, what action can I take to assist “us” regarding this area of organisational health?
If you have attended a 3 or 9-day program with us we encourage you to go back and look at the areas of:
and find ways to action greater change in the organisations you are part of.
Stay tuned and get involved in our single workshops. They may spark great organisational health. And as mentioned above we will be developing an organisational health concept in 2019.
I want to paint a picture of leadership in action and teams getting to performance during the four days of intense leadership and industry activity.
In summarising teams, through this leadership program case study, I am going to refer to Tuckman’s Theory and illustrate what happened.
I have just arrived back in the office from working with a group of fourteen wonderful young leaders on Rottnest Island. It was such a privilege being in the orbit of their enthusiasm, focus and determination. They are the Next Wave 2018, a select but powerful group brought together under the management of Recfishwest and with the funding from WA Fisheries.
Many of the team knew each other. They had shared holiday destinations and a fishing passion prior to the commencement of the program. However no-one in the team that set-off for Rotto last Sunday knew everyone. (Apparently Rotto is the local name – not Rotti).
The connection happened on some steps at Hillarys Habour. I always love watching these moments where people are stepping out of their comfort zone:
The group did a great job of making small talk but it was fascinating listening to safe topics and see the group structure start emerging.
Some self-identifying that this was hard work by finding very important things in the luggage that needed to be retrieved. The 14 did a great job and what became clear immediately was that there was lots of generosity in the group:
As we set off for the ferry terminal additional forming happened with people showing their strengths; finding people to walk with and talk to and others observing and being conscientious with luggage and extra equipment.
This stage happened in a more subtle way and I didn’t observe it all as sleep beckoned most of the evenings.
What was valuable to be reminded of is that when people are clear about the purpose the storming is minimal.
It was also fascinating to see how quickly a team can be slammed back into storming by external influences…fascinating. By halfway, through the second day, it was clear that storming was well on the way. People had formed smaller groups and some people were being somewhat silenced. How does this happen when the task is clear and the endpoint is known?
My observations are, that for some of the 14, the task and endpoint connected to their existing knowledge. But for others it was beyond their reach and relying on “the others” was difficult because they had only formed the previous day.
Courageous and strong personalities started to emerge and this allowed others to “hang in there” and be pulled along. It was so amazing to see the courage and trust emerge. Roles also started to appear…drivers, thinkers, writers, dreamers and more…some of these roles were embraced while others got squashed.
Norming emerged on Day 3. Who sat where; who spoke first; who listened before sharing input.
It was interesting at this stage to see how often the facilitators (that means me) stepped in to try and steer the team in the “right” direction. At this point, I had to keep checking myself and sit back down and pretend to work on my computer. It was important to let the team work out how do get to the end point with their own accepted behaviours rather than impose concepts. And they did emerge.
Encouragement was such a part of the team norms. I got emotional and had to take a walk when only 60 hours after slamming these people together I heard comments like
"Yep – we have all identified who could do with some support and stretching so we are assisting them in these areas."
Even demonstrations of trust and empowerment. Roles were shared, even though there were clear “keyboard wizards” in the group as they pounded away on laptops; eloquent speakers as they shaped key messages; and team monitors who set small (but then repeated) norms such as refreshments and sugar hits. But this mostly happened because the perceived leaders (the facilitators) stepped away and “gave back” giving the team freedom to find their functional norms and start really reaching for the end-point.
Performance happened on Day 4.
What happened? Well, the group delivered.
Extremely complex knowledge and dreaming were wrangled into coherent “this is what we need to do for our sector of the seafood/fishing community”.
And we all know what that looks like don’t we…
but mostly what I see, as someone who is passionate about people stepping into their leadership space, is:
It was a great experience…I was humbled to be there at the endpoint when I heard laughing, backslapping, when I saw man-hugs and just-hugs…I felt happiness, satisfaction, achievement, joy and POWER within the 14.
Is there a link between teams and personalities?
And what connection is there to leadership? What about the practicalities and the theories?
Have you ever done a personality profile? There are so many tools out there aren’t there! Perhaps it was Myer-Briggs, Hogan, LSI? Perhaps none of those is familiar. Or perhaps you have spent time at one of our events experiencing the power of The Big Five?
I see people’s fascination when I mention personality profile and I often wish I had a week to sit down and discuss the fascination of what makes us tick and our fundamentals.
This week I'm providing a quick “heads up” regarding teams and the connection with personalities.
The Big Five model of personality is widely considered to be the most robust way to describe personality differences and is the basis of most modern personality research.
When I first started reading about The Big Five some of the research indicated that the five traits were closely connected and tested against the society’s expected demonstrated behaviours of leaders. This drew me to The Big Five Inventory (leadership and Jill – who would have known).
And it has proved a vital tool. When we work with the diverse teams in our leadership events and programs the combining of teams and personalities is unavoidable.
When analysing personalities the question is
What is the best way to summarise you?
Researchers have done this with many samples all over the world and five stand out:
The Big Five has been constructed to assess these five traits. We, and others, have relabelled neuroticism as confidence – nobody wants to score any numbers in the neurotic column, right!
Yep, you bet.
It does not put you in a box, as people have often suggested. Rather, it provides insight and understanding.
Understanding personality and teams, like most concepts that enhance your leadership knowledge and insight, are connected.
What are the connections? Well, let's look at teams first.
The highly respected, and constantly used, Tuckman’s Stages of Teams are:
Have a look at last weeks blog for some further detail about Tuckman.
Now, let's see where personality adds to team stages.
A time when members are getting to know one another, building an understanding of who is in the team.
The usefulness of all of the Big Five is valuable during Forming. However, one would stand out as highly prized during the very initial stage.
Extraversion – the ability to be energised by being in a group.
Can you see the value of adopting extraversion during this period?
The other Big Five trait that would be very useful during this stage is Openness – the willingness to take on new ideas and being open to newness.
A time when members can be testing the boundaries of the allotted task and are potentially vying for positions within the team.
When you consider The Big Five Confidence (low neuroticism) as a trait, the opportunity to remain calm and not get caught up in some of the game-playing that can occur during this stage would be a highly prized trait.
A period of time when team rules and accepted behaviours are sorted.
The ability to ensure that details are sorted and new ideas are heard and discussed. Here, the display of The Big Five Openness, Extraversion and Conscientiousness would be useful for the team.
And then there is Performing from Tuckman’s Teams. My observations, when I witness or experience teams performing, is that all The Big Five traits are being used effectively and efficiently.
This is also the case for the Adjourning stage when the team is celebrating success, disbanding and look for new opportunities.
From a leadership perspective these are the questions to consider:
We run a Teams Intensive Workshop to help you build and turn your team into a performing team.
In 1965 Bruce Tuckman identified four stages of development that every team experiences. He suggested that all teams go through the first three stages before the final Performing stage.
His work has provided us all with decades of clarity and direction, ie, we know the stages and understand the complexity of each stage. Affectus says thank goodness for Tuckman and today we share what we know.
If you think through your times of working in teams (is there ever a time when you aren’t in a team?) you can understand the Tuckman stages. The four stages of Tuckman’s initial theory were Forming, Storming, Norming and Performing. Later Tuckman and Jensen added a fifth stage adjourning.
What we all know about teams is that teams are not just about the job or the project or task.
Teams are about the people, and the process, and how we feel about the job, people and process.
This makes teams fun, dynamic, chaotic, frustrating, powerful and functional. And these are just some of the words used by our alumni over the years.
Tuckman understood these complexities. And the five stages were developed to include the three elements that he labelled as:
By knowing these three elements, at Affectus, we have been able to observe teams in various stages and marvel at the leadership demonstrated by so many of the people we have worked with.
Perhaps these leaders know Tuckman and apply their knowledge? Or have had so many experiences that they just simply know? Or is it that they have an intuitive understanding? Whatever knowledge is available within the teams this is what happens during each of the stages.
Forming - when the team first meets each other.
The team shares information about their backgrounds, interests and experience and form first impressions of each other, and they are exposed to the job.
During this time they are treading lightly and wonder about how they might work together.
At Affectus we call this the honeymoon phase.
The team is very dependent on the person who appears to be the leader. Leadership is in process. Ensuring that the sharing of information happens, not just once, but that there is a regular "who are we/how are we" conversation.
Storming – when some edges become sharp.
Every team goes through this part of developing as a team. And for some of us, this stage may be our most enduring memories.
At Affectus we call this “the devil appears” stage.
Status and acceptance of difference of opinions will cause conflict within the team. Hence the Storming title. And sometimes you definitely see devilish behaviour surface.
The team, although usually unable to articulate this, is needing roles and responsibilities to be discussed and allocated. The leadership during this stage is about listening, adjusting and communicating about the developing and allocated roles.
Teams that get stuck here need a lot of leadership. While the focus may seem completely on the people and the processes and the feelings rather than the content…that is ok. It is a stage.
Norming – refining the process and get stuck into the content (the job)
When the team moves into the Norming stage, they are beginning to work more effectively as a team. They are no longer focused on their individual goals and others positions in the teams. Tthey are focused on developing a way of working together.
The leadership here is to ensure that the focus on “how we work together” secures the development of respectful, productive processes and not “norms” that will create power imbalances or unproductive unwritten activities.
Great teams are enabled by personal leadership to monitor this stage and to be reflective.
Performing – we are there!!
When a team moves into the Performing stage, they are high-functioning and are focused on getting the content ticked – the job done.
I have been a part of many teams who are in Performing. It is like high energy, trusted team members, edge to chaos seeking activities, and confidence that the job is being done. It is WOW!
If you would like to enhance your understanding of teams to get your team to WOW, our Teams Intensive Workshop will assist you with answering “What do I do if my team is stuck in forming, storming and norming?”
When defining "What is a team," the business dictionary says a team is
A group of people with a full set of complementary skills required to complete a task, job, or project.
A team becomes more than just a collection of people when a strong sense of mutual commitment creates synergy, thus generating performance greater than the sum of the performance of its individual members.
Gosh, that above definition sounds simple(ish) and seems to suggest “so come on what is your problem, this is all obvious and easy”.
When you look at teams there are functional to dysfunctional teams. There are once-was-functional to almost-there-functional. And there is everything in between.
So how do you assist teams to move into functional, whether they are new or old teams?
We will be discussing teams over the coming weeks, developing the four stages below in a more detailed manner.
This theory is an old one and a good one - Tuckman’s theory of teams.
There are many others but this theory is practical. What I mostly love is that you can see it. And I know how valuable it is to go through each step with the advantage of not lingering in any of the early stages identified by Tuckman.
The first stage is forming when people are orienting themselves to one another, getting to know one another.
The second stage of storming is when people tend to become a little fractious
The third stage is when the team build roles and rules to bring great functionality to the team.
The ultimate stage in Tuckman’s work is the team is performing where people have defined their purpose, understand the presence of chaos, and are willing to embrace the edge of chaos because they understand the individuals in the team and what they bring.
I now appreciate that there is great value gained by understanding the components of the team stages. This understanding will provide movement of the team through the lower stages and seek the performing stage.
Forming, when done well, as the team above has done, allows people to get to know one another, to find common ground and understanding. Storming, if understood and identified, will ensure that a team sees it’s vulnerabilities, passions and sharp edges.
If, in the first two stages, honesty and openness have been confirmed and reinforced then the third stage, norming, will be about developing behaviours and unwritten rules that allow, rather than restrict, the edge of chaos activity that stretches a team into performance. A performance level that is not just doing the “job” but much more.
So to get to performance have a look at our tips below. Or register for the Affectus Teams Intensive Workshop
It is important to see teams and personalities as highly connected. Because they are highly connected!
At Affectus we use the highly valued Big Five Inventory. There is so much discussion about the five big traits and we are pleased to have used this tool in our programs for the last 15 years. Our reading on the Big Five now informs significant portions of our work. In the future, we will be exploring the breadth of understanding this tool will bring to your teams.
Ensure that forming is done in a manner that allows people (everyone in the team) to actually get to know one another's personal insights and professional understanding. Develop some guidelines so that the team experiences “getting to know us”.
All teams need to go through this stage. Some teams get stuck here. The skill is understanding what storming is about and letting people know what is happening. Storming goes from people displaying their power and passion to dysfunctional behaviour if the displays are not acknowledged and discussed.
Norms are about conscious (and perhaps written) rules that make sense, to weird “accepted” behaviour. The latter need to be called out and addressed early and openly in a team that is going through the stages. In a team where norms are entrenched due to dysfunction then vulnerability in the leadership behaviour that may be of highest value. People willing to share in a vulnerable manner the “madness” of accepted behaviour that is undermining the opportunities for the team to reach for the edge of chaos...can help.
We all know what that feels like. If you observe a team at an earlier stage understand and acknowledge that is expected. If you see a team stagnating in one of the earlier stages then have the courage to explain and assist them to get to performing (not once in a while performing mind you) and stay there.
Have you ever formed a team?
Have you ever invested richly in the initial moments of a team?
When you have done the investment what team elements have you focused on?
I have recently become part of a team that has a defined timeline. We came together in the full knowledge of the sunset date. It is marvellous to be part of the beginning of a group and it will be equally as exciting to have accomplished our challenge.
The entire lifetime of this team will be 22 months. The sunset on this group provides us with the knowledge that our effort will be fully expended in November.
This month's feature article outlines what this allows and I will possibly share another article after the adjournment of this team. But, for now, I would like to focus on the front end which started informally, for me, in January 2017 in a coffee shop in Rutherglen.
As I have reflected on these initial moments of this team I admire how careful investment occurred. People were informally canvassed to gauge their interest, availability and passion for the concept/idea and after the concept was scoped the first step was to invest in the people of the team.
There was no sense that this team didn’t know what the endpoint could look like but before we discussed outputs we discussed us. This was such a valuable investment and I will tell you why.
It was important to invest in the team because:
Because of this inconsistency across the team (like all teams) investing in ourselves allowed us to understand each other more fully and have a clearer picture of our capacity.
I would guarantee that you innately know the answer to that question.
From my perspective, it is getting to know people…facilitated (not cheesy) processes that encourage the team to understand each other. Perhaps it is simple as chatting and checking in with all the team before business starts. Or organising processes where people get to share what they would like.
If your team doesn’t do this component then how can people really work together effectively?
What is chaos and what is control and are they opposites? Does it have anything to do with leadership?
Today we are focusing more a list of questions with our considerations…and yes these are questions we ask ourselves continually at Affectus and they stretch us constantly.
Control has many definitions. From
the power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events
a member of an intelligence organization who personally directs the activities of a spy.
Considering those two definitions the next question may be "is control something an individual decides or an institute expects?".
Thinking from an individual perspective I observe the struggle of control happening at an individual level everywhere – parents, councils, managers. Therefore “the power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events” fits most comfortably when considering control.
This can challenge at a very fundamental level.
There is no doubt that directing the course of events has to happen constantly. The alternative paints a bizarre picture in my mind of all of my extended family sitting glummy on my verandah.
But what about the idea of directing people’s behaviour.
Firstly, what I now think about when I want to influence (not direct – I have given up on directing) is Johari’s Unknown Unknown.
If control is about influencing outcomes you have to acknowledge that you cannot possibly know what others know. And then there is a whole bucket of information you are unaware of being unaware of. You cannot control this...you have no idea.
Therefore the logic is why would you be seeking to control. The public example of this is the Australian Government trying to control the cross-benchers. From this perspective, control is about "me" rather than others.
Moving from the above thinking to our focus. What happens if our control moves from others to ourselves? What happens? Will the world stop turning? Unlikely me thinks!
At Affectus, what we witness happening is that we more fully focus on what we are bringing to a situation. We are more aware of our contributions and our responses, reactions and actions.
Having found that if we are more aware of managing ourselves, rather than trying to manage the unknowns, then we more fully contribute with all our passion and knowledge and skills.
So if you focus on you and controlling you, you are potentially giving more to the direction and outcomes than if you try to control others. We know this makes sense because day-to-day we see it in action with the teams we work with.
In all of the research and thinking done on Chao, we have a significantly clearer understanding of the chaos concept now.
It is not a disaster or a critical incident.
Chaos is the unpredicatability of all systems.
Chaos is because we can’t have control. And we can’t have control because of the unknown.
Now... we are aware that this freaks people out a bit!
But (take a deep breath let it out slowly)
Chaos is all the time…
You can’t control what another person does. You might be able to have a logical discussion with others, come to a conclusion of next steps or endgame. But you can’t control what they are going to do…even if they are in your employ.
This is the nub of leadership and chaos.
In leadership positions you have to know that you can’t control and that chaos is all the time.
"Are you joking?" We hear the yells? Don’t scream too loudly at the screen…
We are not suggesting anarchy - we are not.
But perhaps, just perhaps, the suggestion is that holding on is madness and thinking through chaos might be valuable. And by thinking through chaos, we mean thinking through the fact that systems are unpredictable because we (you and I) are involved.
When you next step into a leadership space, think:
Perhaps that is the opportunity of chaos? To constantly be inviting the unknown into the leadership space.
Read our other articles on Chaos and Leadership here
Have you considered what happens to our brains in times of chaos?
In 2014, Havard Professor Sendhil Mullainathan spoke about the latest research on how stress can affect intelligence, a factor in successful decision-making.
“Though multitasking has become a way of life in the modern era and may be a smart way to maximize time, it might not be the best way to maximize decision-making. Each person has only so much intellectual bandwidth.”
So what happens in your brain when you are faced with the stress of chaos?
What could be happening in your brain in the mess of chaos and how can we maximise our bandwidth?
It is important to understand a little bit about the neurology of response and the idea of chaos
A chaotic system is characterized by unpredictability.
This means, simply, that one cannot predict how a system will behave in the future on the basis of a series of observations along time.
That sounds like so many times in my life…last week, yesterday, pockets of January. When I accept that unpredictability is how most day-to-days rollout out I can let go of some of my learnt behaviours. And then I can use the slower decision-making loop in my brain to respond to the chaos.
Rarely during chaotic times do I (now) respond with the Three Fs - flight, fright or flee. But this has taken awareness and feedback and lots of work.
During the work I do with amazing people all over Australia through our leadership programs and workshops, I do see the Three Fs responses. So how can we quiet this automatic response when chaos reigns and what difference will it make?
The Third Space has helped me and many people quiet the Three Fs.
Affectus has adopted The Third Space concept to assist individuals to unlock the idea that the brain can be trained to pause and then see the chaotic situation differently.
Our research and observations over the last 15 years suggest that people need a 3-hour session to find a new way of thinking about the opportunities available during chaotic moments.
However, to start your thinking about how to retrain your brain during chaotic times consider Mullainathan’s concept of bandwidth and employ our OPEN process to assist you with expanding your bandwidth during messy times.
Brown and Eisenhardt state that the most successful businesses compete on the edge, with a chaos approach to strategy, leadership and management, with just enough structure to keep things from flying apart.
But what about you? And what about me? And what about the people we share of lives with?
How do we react when times are chaotic? How do others react?
Why is it important to understand your response(s) to chaos?
Let me start with the last question.
It is most valuable to get a handle on what happens when things become chaotic.
When I think back to a period of 2017 when things were particularly messy in my life I reflected (again) on my responses to previous times of chaos. At that moment of reflection in 2017, I could see a pattern. I could see what I thought were my responses. With deeper reflection, I realised that what was my reaction to chaos was actually how I settled back into equilibrium – my normal pace.
So how do we respond to chaos?
Our thinking and understanding is the important thing about chaos. And finding the power of disequilibrium, the edge of chaos.
It is possibly not very useful for me to describe what really happens in my head and how I behave. But it is fundamental to get to the centre of how I respond and harness the power of these moments of chaos.
It is ignoring? Panic? Fuzziness? Working harder? Reinforcing the rules or processes?
It is a tightening of your jaw muscles and pulling the control to you?
Or is it work harder and go faster?
Is it just get on with it?
Do you pause and think? Do you pause and think and not act?
For me, it is a moment of “oh s..t” and tunnel-vision. I can only see and react to what is directly in front of me and I become a bit machine-like. In times gone by I have also been known to “point the finger”. This is a very, very unhelpful response when in chaos.
When we know our responses we can then more clearly spend our brainpower not doing the automated response. This is the learnt response. And we ensure that our brain works for us in these moments of messiness.
So, how can we become conscious of our responses to chaos?
Ask yourself a few reflective questions.
Take yourself through a 4D reflection process and cross-reference this with someone who will have observed you during times of chaos.
Finally, successfully navigating our way through times of chaos is to redefine our understanding of your sense of equilibrium and our comfort level with disequilibrium.
To confront the chaos with a clear head, not a panicked brain.
Giving ourselves time to reset our thinking when we feel our innate responses to the chaos kicking in and review the situation. And see a way through. Because it is there.
So, what is chaos?
Chaos is a scientific concept that is now used to describe the state of a system. That system, when considering leadership might be of mind, of environment, of interactions. It is a state. And, like H2O, that chaotic state is about the fact that it is in change. It is not fixed.This makes chaos a powerful state because there is the opportunity to respond to the state of chaos.
Over the next four weeks, we will explore Chaos in more detail, starting this week with the idea of chaos being an opportunity.
In a “tongue-in-cheek” comment Peter Marsh and Stefan Stern, in their initial evaluation of WL Gore’s success, suggest that If you want to achieve 50 years of almost continuous growth, you now know what you have to do: abolish management and get rid of all the employees.
But, taking the tongue out of the cheek, they later uncover that some of the success is actually about the non-hierarchial structure of the company.
A number of years ago, during a casual conversation with an executive of a financial institute I discovered that, for him, the thought of not having a hierarchical and rigid organisation and decision-making structure would allow for “people going off and doing their own thing”. What irony considering what has been revealed thus far from the Banking Royal Commission here in Australia.
However, this executive clearly thought I was barking mad to suggest that chaos might be a valuable area to explore as an organisation. And he thought I was even madder when I encouraged him to understand the edge of chaos and how valuable it could be to find and be in it. Anyway, a strong tea was made and we moved onto whether the Wallabies would win – not much joy there either.
The conversation peaked my interest in what actually is it about things not being “under control” that gets some people very jumpy and so I started reading and observing.
I remember as a child riding my pony – she was a bugger and very strong-willed - we were a good match. She never quite did what I wanted and I loved her for it. I was regularly instructed to “get Polly under control”. But, secretly I delighted in the fact that she always didn’t quite do it the way she should have. I think I enjoyed being on the chaotic side, which is why chaos and my theory about “leadership space” have interested me for so long now. It is edgy and just a tad unconventional.
It was later on while studying for my Masters in Leadership, that I discovered the idea of the edge of chaos.
Chaos is a scientific concept. It is simply a system that is characterised by unpredictability – that we can’t predict what will happen next.
An example is a raindrop running down a window panel. We can’t predict where it is going to flow. It is still a raindrop. We think we can see where it will run but we can never be certain. I remember long car trips as a child on rainy days watching the water streak horizontally across the passenger window. And I remember thinking “I wonder where this drop will go? I thought I could predict but never got it right, they seemed to track the paths of other droplets but would then do something “new”. Chaos!
Chaos is not a crisis or a natural emergency or an accident or a disaster.
Chaos is an unpredictable system.
There are parameters. There is connectivity. There is purpose. There is direction. But the system is not predictable – raindrops on a car window.
Well, in my experience and the experience of Affectus, it means that the people we work with are not predictable. Their responses, reactions, behaviours, actions can’t be predicted and therefore can’t be controlled.
Scary or exciting? A bit of both I think.
Scary because we have been told “get Polly under control” - thinking that we can get “her/him/them/it” under control.
However, what we also know, innately, is that control is an illusion.
We can manage ourselves and control many things about ourselves but we are literally wasting our time thinking we can control our people. Yes, we can direct or tell or demand (if that is our style), encourage, motivate, cajole, bribe others to “do what I want”. But ultimately (as we all know) people have to make a decision.
This is why the chaotic people stuff is hard – really hard. And why it is worth spending energy thinking “well if control is off the agenda what is available to me, to all of us?”
I guarantee that the Big 4 Banks and AMP (and all the others yet to be revealed) have lots of control process to stop their financial advisers randomly behaving unethically. In fact, I am sure many of you have signed statements, I know I have, from financial advisers outlining how they will behave and what I can expect of them. However, if the Banking Royal Commission tells us anything, that control process hasn’t worked!
The part of the conversation that years ago ensured me and my banking buddy started talking about the Wallabies, is:
What would happen if the myth of control was removed and we allowed people to step find their individual leadership space?
What would it be like if we said there is the edge of chaos, where the system is not rigid?
Where people are able to try things, experiment, challenge, probe, try out their ideas.
What if we go there – all of us? What would happen?
Perhaps the question is "what would happen?" What might happen? What would you need to let go of to let this happen and what might the outcomes be?
Quiet your mind, let go of your initial thinking (that anarchy would occur/it would be amazing) and think about the people – not the system. Think about their amazing capability, their knowledge, their desire for good things to happen.
Experience reveals that something different happens. Not perhaps what you expect, but does that matter.
The work Affectus does, as many of you have experienced, lets go of the structure. We give you parameters, yet we let you find your leadership space (collectively or individually). And then we say “go there" and ask what has happened? Magic, brilliance, disorder. A newness forms and in that newness, you find out. You find the edge of chaos where your mind is stretched, your knowledge enhanced, your participation is magnified and you add great value.
Ori Braffman, in the book The Starfish and the Spider says
“When you put people in an open system, some of them will get high, dance all night long, and attack street signs. But most people will create elaborate art, share snow cones, and try as hard as they can—in thier own way—to contribute to the community. And Burning Man, though outside them ainstream, holds a crucial lesson for businesses. When you give people freedom, you get chaos, but you also get incredible creativity.”
Is it too soon to talk about reflection and sandpaper?
Do we dare to go into this space?
Is it valuable to step into such a short-lived but fundamentally challenging idea as sandpaper?
Cue deep breathe…yep let's give this a go.
Will we answer any questions? Perhaps. But we will also have a few.
What is the connection between sandpaper and leadership?
This is a short reflection on sandpaper. And this, as for many of us, will be a piece from observations via the recent media surrounding sandpaper - overlaid on Affectus’ 4D Reflection model.
If, as we have suggested in earlier articles, reflection is a key part of leadership, my first question is:
'What were the core values of the Australian sandpapergate team?"
Fundamental to leadership action is knowing our values.
Had the team values been reviewed, openly discussed, reconsidered?
Did these values align with the behaviours of the team before sandpapergate?
How did the values that became the drivers for the behaviour for the team during the game(s) then lead to deciding that someone would put a piece of sandpaper in a trouser pocket?
When anyone starts the process of reflection, as all the people directly and indirectly connected to sandpapergate have had to do, that person needs to consider the values and worldview he/she brings to the reflection. We also need the opportunity to bounce our reflections off others who see the world differently. We all see the world differently.
Prior to and during sandpapergate were there any others? Or was the team so hunkered down with a sense of “fortress Australia” in a foreign and competitive country that “others” were not readily available? Also, who are the others that the whole team have connected with since?
I am sure much reflection is happening now. These questions and concepts are important when we think about reflection. We need to think about these broader concepts that are essential for reflection to be helpful.
Now to the actual Affectus 4D process of reflection on the use of sandpaper.
The 4D model asks what are the facts about what you are reflecting upon?
Now this will never be known by us out here in media-consumption land. What were the facts? The facts:
What other facts might be included?
Mining for facts.
It is so important because it helps understand how we see the situation.
There would be no doubt in sandpapergate that this has been completed. The facts in sandpapergate will be mixed by powerful emotions and potentially impacted by “fortress Australia”.
It is important to see the non-linear nature of gathering facts. We need to spend time thinking about the facts and then pause and return to facts again later.
In such a complex matter as sandpapergate the facts may still be coming out. The hope is that all the facts, in some forum somewhere, have all been surfaced. In any reflection process if facts are hidden then the opportunity of real reflection has been missed.
Feelings will have been high and angry, regretful and painful. We all saw a small portion of this on screen and it was hard to watch. Such raw pain.
Sometimes reflection will do this to us. Accessing our feelings of “after it happened” is usually more readily captured. It must be said that the feelings before and during sandpapergate are equally as important.
And (warning offensive material) have the men involved in sandpapergate been provided with good counsel to surface the feelings. It is my experience that some people find it challenging to do the “feelings” part. An older generation person once fed me, numerous times, to stop being emotional, which was not very helpful.
Is it important to surface the feelings? How do you surface the useful feelings? And are there any useless feelings?
The importance of feelings cannot be understated in reflection. Why? Because if we can surface them thoroughly then we will move from the Data component to the Decoding component with solid knowledge.
Decoding is the third component of the Affectus 4D Model and is impossible to complete if the Data components are not done openly.
As media consumers, we will never know the decoding that went on around sandpapergate. But the third D – Decoding is complex and insightful.
My initial reaction, I admit, around sandpapergate was how embarassing – for us. These thoughts were formed with only one piece of Data – my own feelings. And then I moved straight to the fourth D - Decision. Decision - send them all (the whole team) home. Such a knee-jerk reaction. No contemplation. Doing-the-sandpaper might be how you could describe it. No decoding on my behalf, just straight to decision. And what an over-reach that might have been.
It should be noted that I chose the word reaction carefully. Because it was a reaction. It was not a decision. I reacted. Did other people just react? Or did they contemplate, collect data, decode and then decide?
Reflection gives us the gift of deciding rather than reacting because we learn about ourselves.
Decoding benefits from discussion with the others. Were others brought into sandpapergate at this point? Has a subsequent reflection on the response to sandpapergate been done? Have “others” been allowed into the reflection process?
Decoding can be complex. However, if reflection is going to be valuable to commence the decoding in your own bubble may not, perhaps never, give you a complete and thorough decoding.
Decision is the fourth D of our model.
Did the sandpapergate decision get rushed? Was it rushed because a thorough reflective process was omitted? How was the decision arrived at?
There were, within 14 hours of the “hand in pocket” moment, decisions made. We witnessed them. But what about reflection and decision about how sandpapergate was handled?
It would be a circuitous process (much reflection is of course). But what about reflecting on all of it, not just the micro-moment, as dreadful as that was. That is where reflection can sometimes take you - to a bigger issue and spending time contemplating, which is so valuable.
But remember decision then needs action
Decision requires you to think – what next time?
Ah, sandpaper. We have much to reflect on.
Affectus has blogged about Reflection during April and March this year.
This video is the summary of the process of reflecting that we have covered.
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Who reflects and how does the reflection process assist them in leadership.
Do you ever wonder who reflects? And does it make a difference?
Have the leaders down through the ages demonstrated a propensity to sit down at regular intervals and cast an eye backwards and consider “what could I have done differently?”
Having done some desktop search it would appear that leaders do reflect and it does make a difference.
Recently in the UK seven executive directors where part of an in-depth interview to establish the use of reflection in the executive role. The research found that all seven agreed that reflection had been a major contributor to their own development as leaders.
It was interesting to note, that from this research, it was established that reflection was about intentionally creating thinking spaces to enable a different kind of structured thinking.
The research also confirms observations when facilitating reflection sessions during Affectus leadership programs and from my personal experience.
An essential part of reflection is having a process which enables you to learn from experience and to develop new understandings to apply in the world.
From the same research, it was clear that the thinking provided insight.
At Affectus, we see that reflecting unlocks:
We also see that people feel differently after reflecting. Empowered has become a bit yesterday but empowered is the most common feeling that results from reflective processes.
One of the most startling components highlighted in the research was the missed opportunities of not reflecting.
The seven leaders identified loss of:
So, insight is what you gain from the reflection process. And, what you miss if you don’t have a process to look back to understand where you have been and what you have done.
One of the international leaders of our time, Nelson Mandela, illustrated his reflection in his autobiography The Long Walk to Freedom. Mandela, although not using this language, used a four-lens reflective process. The lens assisted him to review the constant challenge of power imbalance, reappraise his assumptions, monitor his increased knowledge through observing his political party and reassess his behaviour as he moved through his years as a freedom fighter.
Elizabeth Patterson’s information is most useful for us in our reflective practice, Elaine Patterson (2015) ‘What are leaders’ experiences of reflection?’ What leaders and leadership developers need to know from the findings of an exploratory research study, Reflective Practice, 16:5, 636-651, DOI: 10.1080/14623943.2015.1064386.
Therefore, it focuses our intent when we move to reflection, it tunes-up our minds before we start the process.
During your reflection process you need to:
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When looking at the history of reflection, Reijo Miettinen states, in his academic writing about reflection, that reflecting on our practices stems from...
...the faith in an individual’ s innate capacity to grow and learn.
It is interesting that some of the initial thinking about reflection happened in the 1940’s. Even back then people were understanding the importance of looking at what they were doing and exploring the concept of reflective practice.
Some of that thinking suggested that the following concepts need to be considered.
Some suggest that John Dewey did some of the heavy lifting on the reflective process and study. Then other people and developed some further key areas to consider. At about this time, as a society, we started to include in reflective activities:
This is a very important part of the reflective process to understand. If we employ only a personal reflective practice and not cross-reference our thinking with others then perhaps our values may be clouding what we see.
Below are our simplified steps of John Dewey's model:-
These are powerful concepts that are covered in a general manner in the 4D Reflection tool we provided in our last blog.
We talk in more detail about our 4D Reflection tool in the weeks to come. What we need to mention is this tool is always used in conjunction with many of our reflective practices. This allows participants to establish their ideas about personal changes, in the environment the changes need to occur.
Having looked briefly at the history of reflection we believe the following must occur for it to be valuable.
"Without reflection, we go blindly on our way"
Margaret Wheatley (Leadership and New Science)
More than three decades ago I commenced my career in assisting others to discover their own personal leadership. At that point, I also discovered the power of reflection.
Reflection was part of reflective practices during my initial years of schooling and university reflection. But, it was not discussed formally even during the educational psychology components of my undergraduate study.
However, the practice of research is always about looking back; reviewing what others have done before you in the field and in the laboratory.
Studying and learning, growing and developing was always about “look back to see where to go next”. But it was in my first (short but successful) career as a teacher that reflection first became a personal practice.
Pausing at the end of each frantic day during my first year of teaching was scary and valuable all at once. That daily ritual of staying in the environment of the school and sitting at the staff table as the building emptied and collecting the data was powerful and at times sanity saving. That data included the facts and the feelings, finding meaning and deeper understanding of what went on and then planning out my next day and week.
I had a clear goal of where I wanted to get my students to by the end of the year. Reflection assisted me enormously in becoming a sound facilitator of people who are looking to stretch and grow into leadership.
I didn’t know the Kierkegaards quote then but I knew it.
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards”
The definition of reflection is serious thought and reflection. Serious thought requires time and brain space.
When I think of reflection I think of the chapters in Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire where Dumbledore extracts his memories. The extraction of the memory was valuable as it allowed the professor to see the circumstances, the events again and with new eyes.
When I commence a period of reflection now I actually create a space, (no, not where I draw out a wand and point it to my temple), where I have stillness to allow my thoughts to come to consciousness.
The first step of reflection is finding the time.
Yep, there goes the gong – time! Where do you find the time?
There is always this tussle about time. However, what you need to consider is what is valuable time usage.
If you spend your time moving forward without looking back then you are at risk of doing the same thing over and over again. Doing the same thing over and over can be useful if what you are doing is worthwhile.
But, and it's a big but. BUT, if your endeavour is repeating the same mistake over again then this is a waste of time.
A recent example in my life was that during a time of intense work pressure I fell back into the habit of not checking the dates. The result was a time-consuming fix-up job. If I had spent ten minutes reflecting on my management and leadership practice I would have seen where I was headed. And I would have avoided the fix-up job.
Jennifer Porter states in her article that research demonstrated that employees who spent 15 minutes at the end of the day reflecting on lessons learned performed 23% better after then days than those who did not reflect.
Porter also goes onto say that you need to find a process for reflecting. We agree, which is why our tips section may assist if reflection has slipped off the agenda for you or if you never really hooked into the concept.
Claude Monet said
“It is on the strength of observation and reflection that one finds a way. So we must dig and delve…”
And we would add to Monet’s quote with
"then find new meaning and implement change in behaviours."
It is important to not just do the Albus Dumbledore pensieve process of extracting our memory. Also, consider what does this mean and what action should/could/must I take to change my ways.
Have a look at our 4D Reflection Model here.
One of the exciting things when you explore your Why is the new sight you get; the clarity you receive and the understanding that occurs.
Our experience in assisting people to explore their Why, and the process we take them through, allows us to observe individuals and groups and their responses. And the deeper knowledge we have gained is what you, as an individual, need to bring to the process of exploring your Why.
So, no matter how you are exploring your Why we would encourage you to consider the following.
Why is it important to let go?
It is important to let go of “what I have to do” and see this frame for what it is – something you feel compelled to do. Sometimes this compulsion is “your Why” but sometimes it is not. So let go and relook.
Opening up is a process of allowing other concepts, ideas and thoughts find their way into your consciousness.
This takes courage for many because it requires us to change our self-talk. Opening up and letting new ideas in and giving ourselves an open orientation requires us to also quiet the voices that might whisper “you can’t do that”.
Affectus has seen people not only do the above but also get their new Why between their teeth and dig. This is where the exploring your Why really kicks into gear.
Even in a 3-hour workshop we have seen people's enthusiasm and passion spur them on. They then work really hard to see their Why clearly. And they more deeply understand what is drawing them to their new understanding of their Why. This step takes honesty.
Many consider this simply about the individual. However, in one of our recent Exploring Your Why workshops, participants found that understanding yourself was actually about understanding oneself in relation to others.
The powerful activity of stepping into the Circle of Why was full of information. Information about others:
And therefore understanding yourself is linked to…Sharing with others.
The concepts that we are providing here are not sequential they are present all the time during the why exploration.
Over our many years of assisting leaders transform we have done research about the power and importance to “sharing”. Sharing where you are headed, what you have found. It is amazing how helpful it is to “share your Why”.
We have seen these concepts swirling around in rooms where “Why explorers” are thinking, talking and imagining why. But we are convinced that to really get to your Why, then you need to bring them fully to the exploring experience.
We have a number of Exploring Your Why workshops scheduled and now have 60 Explorers.
We invite you to come and Exploring Your Why with Affectus.
In our last blog, we talked about the foundational component of Why, (values), and the essential connection between your values and your Why.
When Affectus works with teams to assist them to explore their Why we start with a values identification exercise. This session helps “explorers” understand the foundation of their Why. The values exercise then becomes a focused conversation with a peer to assist them to consolidate their thinking.
There are three other key components that we encourage our “explorers” to investigate.
The second component is passion.
We have developed a process for the harnessing of personal passion and enthusiasm. Keywords that assist in this part of the exploration of Why are:
It is surprising that the use of such words might make some explorers uncomfortable, however when these emotions are brought into a space of interest and openness the energy becomes enabling, eager and intense…the emotions of Why become present.
The third component is to equip you with your gifts.
To visualise personal gifts and bravely hear others name your gifts unseen. A few theories of “unseen” and “unknown” assist to see clearly your gifts…the gifts you know you have and the gifts you hear others speak about you. The humbleness of exploring this part of yourself needs to be counter-balanced with pride and confidence.
The fourth component is the “explorers” commitment.
This involves thinking through how can you be working in your Why more fully, more frequently, more consciously. This is a physical activity and an open communication activity. A powerful naming of your Why.
Exploring your Why is a revealing process, a powerful process. It is something we all should spend time doing.
You might like to share the video below with those you care about…it might assist them in their exploration of their Why.
In this current climate of wondering why people are acting the way they are, there are lots of question that might start with why. Why did she speak like that? Why would he have done that?
Why often flummoxes us when we consider others and actions.
The definition of why as a noun is “a reason or an explanation” and as an adverb “for what reason and or purpose”. But Why is more than that. Why is more than asking questions? Why is about finding your purpose - What is your purpose? Why are you doing what you are doing?
Have you considered the values that guide you? Those values that are fundamental to you, your life.
Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. They determine your priorities.
This sometimes takes a bit of sorting but establishing your values is the base block of your Why. Be encouraged and reflective and uncover your values. You may be able to start seeing your What is being built as you think through your values. If you understand your values you can see that they guide us in our decisions and our undertakings, therefore, they are the fundamental block of what drives us. Our purpose.
After spending time considering and establishing your core values can you imagine having to operate against your values? It is hard to imagine.
Values drive our thinking, our responses, our behaviour, our actions. When we observe others around us we can occasionally see their values displayed. Generosity, greed, consideration... we see them on our trains, our roads, in our workplaces, all around us. Our values are on public display, we know this and we display our values.
Now let’s stretch your thinking about your values and your Why and connect them.
It is important to build the link between your values and your Why.
Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. They determine your priorities. Therefore, through knowing your values, you have a clear understanding of what is important to you. You can then directly link this to your purpose.
If your Why is doing something you see is of value to you (and potentially, hopefully to others); if your Why, your purpose, is about working on something that is important to you; then the link between your values and your Why is strong and should be considered and inseparable. Know your values and understand that they are one of the building blocks to exploring your purpose.
To finish, we once heard an acquaintance talking about the workplace and personal values and the importance of working in a place that had similar values.
The personal story was confronting to hear. The tension in the story was clear. There were the espoused values of the organisation, however, the actual values were displayed through accepted behaviour and this created a disconnection with a disappointed employee. Things had to change because the organisational values were not being lived and this prevented the employee from working with purpose. There was no connection. The employee considered that his purpose was not connected to the work of the organisation. The tension was too great and something had to change.
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John Kotter talks about the Eight Errors that we make when implementing change.
The Eight Errors are interesting concepts and Error Four - Undercommunicating the Vision by a Factor of Ten – is really relevant for all the participants we will be working with over the next month.
Communication can never be underestimated when working through change, and we have spoken about this over the last couple of blogs. But this short blog will consider change from a different angle…the fear of change and six steps to assist others when they are fearful of change.
The fear of change is often difficult to move through. People who are fearful of change may see the change; they may understand the change; they comprehend the need. However, they, no matter the convincing, remain fearful of what is uncertain - the leap into the unknown.
The concept of “if things don’t change, we get in a rut and end up going nowhere” is not unfamiliar but nevertheless, the fear remains.
Are there any steps to be taken to assist people to move beyond their fear?
Here are six steps that may assist.
Remember to avoid Kotter’s fourth error – keep the communication happening.
“Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.”
- Cecli Beaton
When you have found your why the above quote seems to make more sense.
I recently had lunch with a woman who always gets me thinking…always. We spoke about our voices of doubt that still pop up. Her’s is mastering a particularly challenging landing in her plane. Mine when I am thinking of a particularly arduous walk.
As I contemplated our challenging lunch conversation that evening I realised how connected the voices of doubt are to our ability to function effectively on our purpose – to be in our Why – to work where we are most passionate and with all our gifts. I also realised that when we are firmly working in our Why space that the voices of doubt/ the sense of “I can’t” are silent.
January Connections provided a starting point about the idea of why and and we continue to delve further about “why” in this edition.
Some of you will know that we, at Affectus, are pretty keen on the concept of purpose. Simon Sinek calls it “why”. Simon explains that people connect with us because they understand and connect with our why and to know our why is a valuable addition at any level. Simon talks specifically about how useful this is for businesses, here.
At Affectus, our purpose – our Why - is all of the above and more.
“Why” is a deep understanding of what drives us and this invariably is connected to our values and passions and gifts.
These three elements underpin our current reading and research. Affectus’ current work has helped both us and our clients deeply connect with why we are all driven to do things. Or, in some instances why some continue to gaze over the fence and look at the greener pastures.
Taking people through:
This ensures they are able to step into leadership with a sense of “this is my space, my leadership space”.
This takes great courage but if you are clear about your Why then your thinking will be less clouded by those “voices of doubt”.
At Affectus, we work hard at verbalising and therefore maximising the “Can” so that we are ALL able to work with others and shape the future.
What is your why and how can you find it?
It sometimes comes with a thud…
These were two "thuds" from attendees at our recent Exploring Your Why Workshops.
Or perhaps you already fully understand your why and you are already in your leadership space because of that. Or because, even though it has never been named as your “Why”, it is what you love doing and you are pretty good at it.
Or perhaps you need to think through the three areas to consider:
Well, simply, because it requires less effort to be spending your time there.
For me, when I am working on my purpose, it is not always easy. Actually most of the time it is really hard but I am focused on my Why, something that I see as important, and I am pouring my passion and skills into something that is valuable. So while it is hard being there it required less effort because I feel alive when I'm there.
"Oh come on"…the voices are deafening…"OH COME ON!" But, actually, I think I am right.
If you think about your last 5 days what made you:
Was it something you love doing? Pretty likely.
You can actually hear people whistling, humming - there they are!
I have spent more than 40 years thinking about leadership. At various times during these years, it has totally absorbed me. I have spent time thinking about who I am and where I want to be, what change I want to make and what the team might look like to make that change a reality.
I have flirted with the concepts of:
And this is why I have found the term #leadershipspace so helpful over the last decade.
I feel confident that I have found what #leadershipspace means. And what it might mean to others. So, let me explain, shall I?
#leadershipspace is about finding where we want to be and affecting that space. It is your and my hope that what we do:
I have heard it described:
…this desire to affect is a powerful driver. It drives me.
I also know that people want to see the affect, people stepping into a leadership spaces and those watching us stepping into leadership spaces some call it the evidence of leadership money spent wisely.
I frown as I hear the perennial comment “So what have we got from our $ spent” and I think look harder, listen carefully, be wiser.
And I think each person has thought about the affect they will make.
Everyone who has been part of any program, (any that I have facilitated or other people), everyone has thought about their affect.
They think about it:
and they think “Where is the space for me?”
And then they see it!
Sometimes it takes no time and sometimes it takes a long time; sometimes only the individual can see it (and only ever will) and sometimes the world sees it. But believe me everyone wants to affect their #leadershipspace…
So how do you find the leadership space where you will affect things?
Well, that can take a long conversation, even a whole leadership program or years of mulling through but it takes thinking steps.
We have developed some tips below that will help you.
We believe that these couple of links will help you start your thinking steps about affect and your leadership space.
If you would like further information regarding any of these initiatives, feel free to contact Jill, firstname.lastname@example.org.
I was asked to address a group of ‘Women in STEM’ last week. The convenor asked that I draw on my national leadership knowledge and experience. I spent time thinking through what I have seen work over my 20 years of researching, building and I reflected on how I have assisted in the development of effective teams that deliver outcomes.
I spoke for 10 minutes to the assembled women who work across the STEM field…doctors, researchers, agronomists, technicians, teachers, nurses…women interested in adding to the STEM agenda, both locally and nationally. I was asked to be precise, the woman had to get to work and commitments…so I condensed my long version to an abbreviated one.
I believe that there are fundamentals to get your team ‘going’. When I have worked with teams that need to deliver outcomes within 6 months and those that need to consider the long-term I have noticed the following five concepts are consistent across all. I have then used these five concepts to assist and groups move from a collective of interested individuals to a performing team. They will assist you in getting things moving for you and your team but they will also guide you if your team is in for the long-haul and already established.